(Closed) Would you have a baby shower for your 2nd baby (if it was a different gender)?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Baby shower for 2nd child?
    Yes - why not?! : (40 votes)
    38 %
    No way - one shower is enough : (63 votes)
    59 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    When my sister had a baby of a different gender I threw her a “Sprinkle”. I however, only invited family and her very closest friends. I would say there was a total of 60 people at her first shower and 15 and her sprinkle.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @oracle:  My sister had her son, and immediately had her daughter 11 months later. I felt extremely put off when she asked me to throw her a 2nd shower. A year had not even passed between #1 & #2! Just seems gift grabby. One is enough in my opinion.

    ETA: She moved on from me, and got her friend to host the 2nd one. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If someone offered to throw me a small shower, I wouldn’t object. I have an awesome, close group of girlfriends who wouldn’t be upset by a second shower. 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think one is enough, however something like PP mentioned about a sprinkle is cute. I have been to a second child shower though.. it was fine and I brought a gift!

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    People’s opinion on this topic appears to be very split, (judging from previous boards).  I think a shower for each child is absolutely fine.  Then there are people who are very much against this.

    In your friend’s situaiton, i think it’s especially acceptable because the child is a different gender.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I wouldn’t be put off at all by it personally. I think of baby showers as a way to celebrate having a baby, and I would be happy to celebrate with the expecting parent for each child, not just the first one.
    Perhaps just bring a card if you don’t feel a gift is appropriate.

     

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i would never have a second shower.  maybe a little brunch or something with my close friends. but i’m also the person who would never have a family member host my showers.

    for close girlfriends who are on their second child (i’m at that age where my friends are starting to have baby number 2 or 3) i send a gift like a big box of diapers or maybe something personalized for the second baby.  i’ve already bought a stroller and a breast pump so you’re not getting another. 

     

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Personally I don’t think I’d have a second shower. I’ll let you know if I feel differently once the kids actually come 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m due in a few weeks with my second child of a different gender and I didn’t have a shower. I think small get togethers are fine for a second baby (especially a different gender). 

    We bought everything early on for Dirty Delete so we didn’t really need anything extra. We’re throwing a “sip and see” with just extended families and close friends but we’re requesting no gifts. I just want to feel like we’re celebrating Dirty Delete as we did with DS.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It tends to vary by region. In some circles, they’re common; in others, less so.

    For my part, I think that if the children are close in age (-5 years), then it’s more acceptable to have a second shower that’s more about celebrating the birth, as opposed to “showering with gifts.” From an ecological standpoint, it sort of drives me crazy if a couple must have two of everything when certain things can easily be reused. I also don’t think that it matters if the gender has changed, personally. A few gender-specific onesies the kid can wear out, fine, but otherwise, you’re going to tell me that it makes a difference for a baby boy to puke all over pink as opposed to blue or for a baby girl to crap in a blue bouncy chair?

    If you go, bring a gift, as it is a shower (I recommend diapers as a gift, provided they’re not going cloth, since any kid can use ’em). If you’re put off by giving a gift, decline.

     

     

     

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @oracle: 

    What I have learned is when it comes to parties of this kind it’s all about the area you live in and your family/social circles.

    Where I live you have a shower for each and every kid. I don’t know anyone in my personal life that would even bat an eye at an invite to a shower for a 2nd, 3rd, 4th child. In fact, it wasn’t until I joined this site that I even realized some people don’t do this.

    So my advice is do what you’re comfortable with. If you feel a little put out and your relationship isn’t great then RSVP no and send her a congrats card.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Future Sister-In-Law and I were thrown a joint baby shower (we were due like 3 days apart.) I had a girl and 3 years later when we had our boy, I was also given a shower. Both events were really only family and close friends though and no one seemed to mind. When we had our third (a boy) I didn’t have one. My BFF and Future Mother-In-Law offered to throw one for me, but I declined. Honestly I didn’t really need it, and it felt weird to me because baby #3 was less than 2 years after baby #2.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a shower for second and third babies really.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Hmm I literally have never thought about this.  Granted, I don’t have a child nor do any of my close friends… I personally don’t have a problem with 2 showers, but I guess I see why some people would!

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