(Closed) Would you have gone to this baby shower? NWR

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow…… she sounds like a delightful person that I would want to spend a day with!!!!  Don’t  worry about attending the shower or sending a gift. Obviously she didn’t learn anything from her wedding.

Post # 4
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

She sounds too pushy to me. I probably wouldn’t have RSVPed just because of how she was acting about it, but I definitely wouldn’t have gone. Good for you for RSVPing, at least.

Post # 5
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Uh… no. Well, I might send her a book by Emily Post but that is it.

Post # 6
2603 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

So my feeling is that the social disgrace of having no one show up to your shower pretty much trumps any monetary (gift) withholding. 

IN that sense, I wouldn’t attend the shower either, but I would probably send a nice email declining the invite and then when the baby was born, I’d send a congratulatory card and a baby gift (maybe around $40)? 

But I think you’re justified in doing neither, if that’s how you feel!

Post # 7
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow! I definitely would NOT be a part of that! Nor would I get her any sort of gift. She seems like a real gem Undecided

Post # 8
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012


And I wouldn’t bother with a gift..unless it was this onesie.


Post # 9
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Nope. I wouldn’t have gone either. Most I would do is send a card.

Post # 11
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t have gone either.

Post # 12
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You wouldn’t see me there, either. She sounds very inconsiderate and pushy. 

Post # 13
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would not have gone! I had a really good friend and we had so much in common, but once she started planning her wedding she started to act like your step-cousin. One day I just couldn’t handle her nasty attitude and negativity anymore so I cut ties with her. I’m still baffled by the things she posts on fb to this day.

My mom always says, “you reap what you sow”. 

Post # 14
22 posts
  • Wedding: January 2013

Definitely would not have gone! But I probably would send a card with any family members I knew were going.  Like PP said- not having people there is worse than not getting gifts!

I do understand her frustration though… Getting people to RSVP to ANYTHING these days is a pain in the butt.  No excuse for those posts though.

Post # 15
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Pinksapphire:  It seems like she feels she is owed something… I can’t imagine treating people like that! The poor baby (sorry that’s how I feel though)! Because that who is really getting jipped here. But sadly there is nothing else you can do! She can’t keep thinking this behavior is okay! I’m surprised she didn’t learn at her wedding like a PP said!

How did she act after the wedding? Did she say anything at all?

I’m sorry she does need something said to her about this! And I wouldn’t spend more on a card than those $1 ones at Walmart since she’ll probably throw it right in the trash!

Post # 16
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I feel really sorry for this baby. It is really sad that she has alienated her entire family and that poor little child won’t have people celebrating it.

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