Post # 1
On the Today show this morning they featured a story about women whose mother’s were a surrogate mother for them. Basically the grandmother was giving birth to the grandchild. Would you be able to have your mom give birth to your child?
Post # 3
No way! I’d hate for Mom to do all that work, only to have to hand over the baby to me. What if I do things “wrong,” and I’m parenting “her” baby in a way she doesn’t agree with? Will she resent me? Will she miss the baby? Will I feel guilty about that if she does?
I’d rather not have a surrogate have a vested interest in my life after the birth.
Post # 4
I voted “Other” only because it would be physically impossible for my mother to be my surrogate, so the point is moot. She had a hysterectomy in her 30s. Though for all intents and purposes, someone her AGE could have children as she hasn’t hit menopause.
I wouldn’t want her to. I’m not sure if I’d want to know my surrogate at all if there were some reason for me to have one (though I don’t imagine myself going that route if I can’t get pregnant on my own.)
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want my mom to go through that, and actually, I don’t think she’s willing to do it all over again either. I’d rather just not know who it is who’s carrying my baby
Post # 6
Nope I would want it to be someone I didnt know. I wanted to be a surrogate before a bunch of medical issues and my only requirement was that I didn’t know the couple.
Post # 7
Yup. My mom or a close friend would pretty much be the only people I would trust to carry my baby, (if I needed that). I know they would do absolutely everything righ while pregnant. and how rewarding would it be to see the child you carried for someone grow and be part of their lives forever. I think this is an amazing thing for a mother to do for her daughter who can’t carry a child to term.
ETA: just want to add that I know my mom would absolutely be willing to do this for me if I needed it.
Post # 8
I would be uncomfortable with that. I feel like my mother might get too attached and start getting bossy with me concerning how to raise my children. A lot of grandmothers get that itch to tell their daughters what’s best for raising children as it is, and this just seems like asking for snarky comments like “I had that child in my womb for 9 momths, maybe you ought to listen to me on this one..”
Post # 9
@Meowkers: “My mom or a close friend would pretty much be the only people I would trust to carry my baby, (if I needed that).”
I’m the same. If I required a surrogate to have children, I’d want it to be my mom, my sister, my SIL, or a really close friend. I want someone with a vested interest in both me and the child to be the one to carry it and nurture it for 9 months.
Post # 10
No way. She is a smoker, and not really in the best health. I’d be more inclined to have my sister be a surrogate for me over my mother.
Post # 11
I voted “other” because it would be physically impossible for my mother to do that. However, I think I would have voted no anyway. I would hate to have something happen to my mom and the baby at the same time, you know? Like, I’d be so worried about her health both for her sake and for the baby’s sake. I’d feel as though all my most important eggs were in one basket.
Post # 12
quite frankly, my mother is too old.
it’s actually something that my dh and i seriously discussed when we got together. he always wanted children (his ex-wife lead him on for over 10 years). i unfortunately had a partial hysterectomy in my 30’s but i requested to keep my ovaries.
technically, we could still have our own child if we had a surrogate. we couldn’t think of anyone close to us who would be the best candidate. my sister and dh’s cousin would love to but they are unhealthy and smoke a lot.
Post # 13
No, not my mother. I wouldn’t want it to become a power struggle thing when parenting. But I would consider my sister though.
Post # 14
Hell no! I’m already dreading the you’re-not-doing-it-right comments so I see that potential skyrocketing if mom actually carried the kid.
Post # 15
@KoalaWalla: haha yea but Marm is a special bird
Post # 16
No. That’s kind of creepy.