Post # 1
Darling Husband and I don’t have kids, but we were having a whole daycare vs. nanny discussion for when we do and he asked how much a full-time nanny would cost. I went on an au pair web site to get a ballpark, and I noticed that some of the women who have profiles are gorgeous. Now, I trust my husband 100%, but instincivley, I found myself clicking on the profiles of older or not-so-attractive candidates.
That got me thinking, given all else being equal (experience, education, salary) would you feel comfortable hiring a hot, young nanny?
Post # 3
I would personally feel uncomfortable hiring a nanny period. The thought of having a stranger in my home creeps me out.
But if I were to hire a nanny her looks would have no bearings on our decision. I would however probably tease my husband about it just for fun. 😉
Post # 4
Now I’m starting to think this web site may not be legit…. This is one of the profile pictures for a candidate. I find it difficult to believe that this picture would help this woman’s find a job. I did not edit or crop this picture in any way.
Post # 5
This is just one of those totally irrational things. I trust my husband, he has never given me any reason whatsoever to not trust him, I’ve never been jealous of his relationship with anyone… and yet…………. given the choice between two equally qualified candidates? I’d hire the less attractive one. Sorry. lol.
Post # 6
When we were looking for a nanny, physical attractiveness was the last thing on my mind. We actually interviewed a couple girls that I thought were really beautiful. It’s funny, though, because my husband was the one looking at more mature women. 🙂 His thought process was that the older women had been nannying longer, and therefore, had more experience.
Personally, I just didn’t care about the nanny’s physical appearance. Ours was hardly ever alone with just my husband and daughter anyway.
ETA: What website is this?!
Post # 7
How did you hear about this site?
Post # 8
No way. And I trust my husband 100% and am far from the jealous type. I just don’t think it’s a good idea. Especially because a woman caring for your child is probably found to be extremely attractive by that child’s father. It’s just instinctual.
Post # 9
I just finished reading Sharon Osborne autobiography a while ago. And she basically said in it, never hire a young nanny. period. She talked about all the horror stories she had, including one time where she found her children outside a pub while the nanny was inside picking up guys. Or another time where the nanny was having parties in the house and locking the children upstairs. She just warned that you really need to assess the maturity and job experience of the person you’ll be hiring. I mean they ARE taking care of your children.
Also in her experience, down side to having a famous husband. A couple of them did end up in bed with her husband. She fired them of course. But I chalk that up to having a famous husband more than that is what hot nannies do all the time. But I will remind you that any unmarried girl could potentally at least develop a crush on your husband. Could you deal with that? Personal I could deal with a school girl crush but not uber stalking.
Things to think about.
Post # 10
I am in the camp that the most qualified person and the one who gets along best with my child should get the job. If you trust your husband this is a non-issue. To me, the fact that you have this question speaks to you thinking it is a potential problem. If there is no problem then there is no problem.
Post # 11
I have no problem with attractive women and I wouldn’t have a problem hiring one for any other job – however I don’t think I’d be down with having one work in my home on a daily basis when I wasn’t around (if she wasn’t someone I knew previously). I’d trust my husband but why would I willingly put myself in that position? Especially since I’m the one gone more for work.
As for age, I wouldn’t hire anyone too young because when it comes to nannies I’d want someone with considerable experience. Not someone who make flake out when something better comes along.
@MrsFuzzyFace: I don’t think it has to do with trusting your husband making it a non-issue. Even innocent relationships can lead to crushes once you get to know someone just by spending time with them. I wouldn’t be worried about my husband as much as I would the nanny because he’s an awesome guy – and frankly I wouldn’t blame her – I just wouldn’t allow the opportunity.
Post # 12
I don’t think I’d ever hire a nanny actually.
Post # 13
@camrie: That’s exactly how I feel about the situation! My mom was a single mom for quite a few years to my brother. She HAD to hire a nanny for my brother, she said the worst thing she ever did was hire a young girl. She brought her boyfriends over, ate everything out of her fridge and blamed my brother!
Post # 14
@rachaelrobin: Yeah, I am kind of with you, although I would NEVER consider putting my child in a daycare. My sister worked in a daycare during college and the stories I heard make me cringe at the idea. I suppose that if being the primary caregiver for my girls where not an option I would definitely go with the best nanny I could find.
Post # 15
I went to a friends holiday party this past Dec and met their Au Pair for the first time, who is literally an 18 year old tall thin pretty blonde who was wearing a short tight skirt and lowcut tight vneck sweater. My first thought was “Holy $hit, what the He!! were they thinking??”. I mean, I know it’s the cheapest option for child care, but that’s just asking for trouble, bringing temptation into your home. I knew then and there I wouldn’t be comfortable with it, regardless of the price tag.
When I was a child, one of my best friends fathers had an affair with their young pretty nanny. As a result her parents got divorced and the kids have a lot of emotional issues. I always wondered why they chose to have a young pretty female live with them when they could have afforded a more experienced older, less attractive nanny.
Post # 16
This SO reminds me of Friends!
What about a hot manny? Is it a double standard? 😉