(Closed) Would you hire a non-AA DJ?

posted 8 years ago in African-American
Post # 92
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Scc6a:  +1

Op i don’t think there is anything wrong with this question.  I totally understand why you would want a dj from your own culture.

Post # 93
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wonder how many people who found the OP’s post offensive only found it offensive b/c the OP herself admitted that it might be offensive/racist.  I wonder if people didn’t read it knowing that it was going to possibly be racist, if they still would have found it offensive. 

Granted, it’s too late to know now because the damage is already done and no one will admit that they only found the post to be so offensive/racist because they knew it was going to be offensive/racist from the first sentence. 

Post # 94
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@peachacid:  I am asked if I am Scandinavian because of my facial features as I change my hair all the time. And I have no accent. And was born here. This happens all the time. It is not just a minority thing.

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - establishment theatre

a good dj is a good dj because of his interaction with the crowd, being able to read the crowd and keep the party flowing in a positive way…the best country western dj i have ever met was a black guy, and the best hip/hop, Rap dj i know is a white woman! OP you need to chill out and go with a dj based on their skills not their skin color…

Post # 96
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Scc6a:  +1 

Christ in a cardigan there’s a lot of judgment going on in here. OP, I’m white and not offended by this. I get what you’re saying. It probably could have been worded better, but whatever. I understand what you mean.

What I think you should do is, rather than just choosing a DJ or choosing a company to assign you a DJ, is to choose several and interview them in depth. Ask them what type of music they’d play, if they know go go music, etc. Any questions you have, bring them up. 

Ladies, just because the OP is AA doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have a culture, or that she has no right to want a DJ who can play the specific kind of music that she wants. Much like a pp wanted a DJ to play a specific type of Hispanic music, and ended up with a Hispanic DJ because the white DJ she interviewed took that to mean “Mexican.” I DO agree that any DJ worth his or her salt should be able to understand what the couple wants, read a crowd, etc., but the OP wants a peace of mind that her DJ isn’t going to let her down.

Post # 97
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

Regardless of the DJ you choose, arent you going to give them a list of music to play?

I think a white/Chinese/aboriginal/purple person could push a button to play a song, it has nothing to do with ‘experience’ and ‘culture’.

Post # 98
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wait, does this mean I have to find a half Norwegian, 63/64 black, 1/64 Cherokee DJ for my wedding?!

In all seriousness though, Go Go is so popular in the DMV I would be surprised if you couldn’t just ask for someone who specilizes in Go Go.

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@cmbr:  My quarter Cuban fiance and I are going to further futz with these numbers. Yay for racially unidentifiable children!

Post # 101
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@CaliHoya:  Hee hee

Post # 102
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@pixiefairy47:  Good Lord, I feel like I should hug you. People were a wee bit of all types of vicious towards you on here. That being said, I get what you were saying (at least I hope so). I’m assuming that you stated you wanted a Black DJ from the DC area, because it would seem the easiest way to get someone to play the type of gogo/music you were looking for. NOT because you’re racist (although I have a friend that wants to use all black vendors to make a statement, and I don’t find that to be racist either. But I don’t know if that’s what you’re trying to do…I don’t think so…). I’m not having a DJ at my wedding, but if I did, I’d want one that would know which go-go music to play, that knows Lenny Williams played at the right time will induce crowd sing-a-long time the way Lynard Skinnard does for my melanin deprived southern friends (and to be honest, I’ll proudly sing along to it too in the right crowd- but at my wedding you’d get crickets if you played Sweet Home Alabama or Pour Some Sugar On Me). Ideally, they’d also know to play some music for stepping (the guy is from Detroit). Now, average John Doe of the paleskin variety is most likely not going to play those things, although I don’t doubt for the minute I could get a great TOP 40/Hip Hop/Old Soul mix from him I think you phrased your question with that in mind. So if that’s the case I get it. But as WB caters more specifically to a mainstream/white-centric audience, you’re going to get called racist for wanting to acknowledge that it ain’t all U-N-I-TY up in here, and that there are differences (and that some races/cultures have to SEARCH to get the type of “catered to you” experience that those in the majority enjoy without thought). For the sake of your sanity, please be careful how you phrase what you post here.

But onwards bound to your issue:

 You could specifically bring up names to see if they recognize them (“Hey, do you have any Chuck Brown on your playlist?”) or flat out ask to see a list of potential DJ’s and take the time to contact them- I don’t think you should have to make the playlist for them, unless they are lowering the price you’re paying, sorry.

 

And to those that wanted to know about DC gogo, I’m no expert, but look up “5 in the morning,” Chuck Brown, Northest Groovers, etc or try gogoradio.com. I think. If anybody else knows better about go go than me….which isn’t hard…maybe they can provide other references?

Post # 103
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Honey bee

My problem with this is post is that if I started a thread and said “no offense or anything but I’m afraid a black DJ will only play rap and wont play elton john like my friends like”. that would be racist. But this post isnt? Please.

 

Post # 104
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@pixiefairy47:  

 

I do know what you’re saying.  I live in the DMV area as well and GoGo is traditionally more known and loved by African American people in the area.  And another dj who doesn’t typically play for that demographic can sometimes miss the mark.  Folks are taking this way too far for the sake of having something to argue about.  Ridiculous.

Post # 105
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@Bostongrl25:  

 

No it wouldn’t be racist.  I’m an AA female and the truth is, most black djs don’t play much elton john.  Which is why I always advise people to go listen to the dj play before you just book anyone.  Now it woulda been racist if you had said “I want a white dj because those porch monkies don’t know anything elton john”.  That would have been offensive as hell.  I have an issue with how people (on all parts of the spectrum), use any conversation that has anything to do with race as a platform to get offended and sound off about it.  

Post # 106
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Bostongrl25:  The difference is most black people/minorities are adept at dealing with a white-centric world and most likely would know how to adjust. However, most of those in the majority have a no fu…cares to be given about catering to the cultures of the minorities. So yea, a post like the one you suggest would most likely come off as hella more racist (ETA: perhaps not cross burning racist…but definitely ignorant/prejudiced/slightly bigoted) than I feel the OP did. Again, she could’ve worded it better, but she’s basically asking for someone that knows about non-mainstream music that originated in DC black communities (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go-go). Elton John is mainstream. At this point, RAP is mainstream. Go go is not.  If you don’t see a difference in that, nothing I type, or anybody else types, is going to change that.

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