(Closed) Would you hire a woman planning her wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A lot of brides get their wedding planning done at work – Rebecca Mead’s book "One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding" says a lot of companies with a lot of woman 18-30ish have to block places like TheKnot to increase productivity (if I remember correctly).

Of course, it’s also the balance – a lot of people are on computers all day for work – I know I keep WeddingBee open and hit reload throughout the day for a little wedding "hit" in between programming and emails.  I think that knowing that a woman may spend a lot of time and resources on NOT doing work at work would be a reason not to hire them – but I wouldn’t think that just ’cause someone is getting married means they’re going to spend all of their time at work writing up their guest list.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t do my planning at work. But, I spend ALL my time at the computer or on the road, traveling. I check weddingbee for a nice little break during the day. I’ll comment on something, or just surf around. I think most people feel the same way. It’s a nice mental break from work, which we all need.

Now, if your work is suffering, you’ve got a problem.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t really plan my wedding at work. I do a lot of it on the weekends while I watch tv. My Fi and I live in different states so I use what would be quality time for us to plan. I browse pictures for ideas and stuff when I need a mental break from the technical work I do. Nothing too major unless I literally have nothing to do. I have spent an afternoon or two browsing and coming up with spreadsheets. But I had no work to do, so i justified that! I spend my lunch break researching affordable sites and figuring out my to-do list in the upcoming weeks. Or reading a magazine, stuff like that. I check weddingbee occassionally, especially first thing in the morning when I’m at my desk (630, 7am mind you) having coffee. It helps ease me into my day. My company knew I was getting married and had no problem hiring me. They didn’t even mention it. They don’t block sites like the knot either, but it’s nice to be able to browse galleries quickly because their internet is way faster than mine! I don’t let it interfere with my work, but it does help break up the monotony of my job.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I work in e-commerce, and when we analyze the traffic coming in to client stores, it’s consistently busiest during the 9-5 hours! I’m not surprised you find the same thing here. Lots and lots of people browse and shop and plan things online during the day.

I however, try to keep that to a minimum because our company uses software to log all the websites we visit during the day.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

LOL Guilty as charged, although I will say this last week I was on spring break with a major cold, so I have been beeing it up hard core where usually I don’t have this kind of time.  When I’m at work, I have time here and there to do a wedding related task, but for the most part, I’m a good girl. 

If I were hiring someone, I think it may be annoying to have someone always doing tasks other than what I am paying them to do…so rule of thumb:  IF YOU’RE INTERVIEWING, LEAVE YOUR WEDDING PLANS OUT OF THE DISCUSSION UNTIL YOU’VE SIGNED A CONTRACT, GIRLS!  🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I planned alot of my wedding while at work, but not to the detriment of my job. I am sure that I speak for a lot of people when I say that even though I was busy at work, I ended up with a lot of 10-15 minute spells of downtime…. and I would spend most of my downtime researching the wedding. Still being producitve, and yet spending a decent chunk of my day on the bee. =)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Well I do some of it at work but it doesnt hurt my job, i work over-nights(12a-8a) at an Alarm monitering company so i only work when a signal comes in. Although. . . WeddingBee DOES tend to cut into my study time for school. . . .  shh

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

No offense, but isn’t this a similar question to – would you hire a woman planning to get pregnant?  I’ve got my very own wedding gestating right now – due in september.  I’m sure if I was planning on getting pregnant, I’d be just as similarly obsessed with baby info to look up.

Where are those cracks in the glass ceiling, ladies? 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Before I got laid off due to budget cuts, I definitely checked out weddingbee a little during work hours, but I always got my work done on schedule, and my boss knew that I didn’t have much on my plate, so it wasn’t a big deal.  I never really took my breaks during the day, so I just figured, reading a blog entry or two every hour added up to about 25 minutes of break time, so it’s not like I was getting paid to surf the web 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Miss Rye Bread,

I thought the same thing… and played my favorite game – reversed the genders.  Would you second guess at all to hire a man who was getting married?  

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I work for a small family company, and luckily I kind of work my own hours so if I decide to talk to a wedding vendor for 30 minutes, or (ahem) read weddingbee every morning- it is my own responsibility to get my work done. I have done 90% of my planning while at the office, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

 

I will say that someone planning a wedding, having a first baby, or buying their first home will surely be distracted at the office. I would be interested to know how much more productive our work force would be if we focused solely on work while at work.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee

It’s a tricky situation.  While some companies recognise that having pencil to paper 100% of the time someone is in the office will quickly burn them out, they still are very conservative when it comes to non-work associated web visits.  But we all know it happens.  What truly annoys me is how much time is spent online anaylizing basketball brackets and fantasy baseball/hockey/football teams that is considered ok, if not celebrated.  Yet if someone makes a phone call to a florist during the day because they aren’t open after hours, that’s grounds for scrutiny if not termination.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Planning at work is the only way I can do it. Most wedding vendors are only open during the week day, so by the time I get home it’s only emails and leaving messages. My  manager is aware of my mindset and he is okay with it as long as I’m getting my work done. I try to get most of the wedding stuff done in the morning or during lunch but I’m periodically doing other wedding stuff throughout the day.

I’m not sure I would hire someone knowing that they are getting married in the next few months. Their mindset is going to be on other things rather than training and work. It all depends on the job though!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Personally I think the question is inappropriate.  You hire someone based on their qualifications and not on what is going on in their personal life.  Whether they are planning a wedding, having a child or even dealing with serious personal issues like a dying loved one – it is none of the employer’s business.  I believe that it is a huge no-no to even ask a woman any of those questions in an interview.  I would be very offended if someone asked me if I was planning on having a family soon in an interview (I am newly married and of child-bearing age) because there are laws against it.  My personal life is not their business, and that includes planning a wedding.  So to answer the question:  I would hire the person based on their qualifications alone – rings on their fingers wouldn’t be a part of the hiring process.

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