Post # 1
I found an officiant who appeared to be wonderful – good reviews, right price, experienced, etc.
I emailed him initially, and asked a few questions related to our date, deposit, etc. He wrote back three days later and said we could meet to discuss our plans, then asked for more information on the ceremony we’re planning.
I sent back a long email – about 1 page of info on our ceremony (which is going to be a tartan pinning ceremony, something he isn’t familiar with), several questions (reiterating ones i’d already asked), and a few times we might be able to get together.
A week and 2 days later, I got an email saying he could meet on this day, this time, at this place, and to let him know.
So far, I am disappointed. I would like to hire him if he would get back to me a little faster… It’s frustrating to ask so many important questions and get no response, and for it to take a week for even a one-line email. Since he’s so inattentive in the "wooing" phase – before we’ve even hired him – I’m not sure I want to commit and get even worse responses in even more time.
Would you hire this person, given these facts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2008 - Hotel on the westside of Los Angeles
Some vendors are just really bad with email. I’m very comfortable with email and I check my email multiple times a day, so sometimes it surprises me when other people only check their email once a week, if that. But some peoplr are just not as comfortable with email as others, so you might have to play to his strengths.
If you really like this officiant, don’t give up on him yet. It sounds like he might be more of a phone person. Maybe call and ask if you can set up a "phone appointment" where you guys can discuss the details of the ceremony and any questions you may have.
Post # 4
Since he gave you a time, I would at least meet with him. You never know, he may not check email very often, or may have been on vacation when you first emailed. He may want to answer all of your questions when you meet instead of through email to make sure you were on the same page. I always get a different vibe from people face to face – see how you feel after that and then decide.
Post # 5
I don’t consider that to be too bad either. Try calling him on the phone to confirm the appointment. Meet with him and see what you think. If he ends up being bad at corresponding over the phone as well, or you just don’t get the right vibe from him when you meet, then I would consider going elsewhere but I wouldn’t give up on him just yet.
Post # 6
Bettina – I agree with the others on here. I went through something similar when I chose my photographer – some of the other photographers I was talking to via email would get back to me in less than an hour. But the one I actually booked with – sometimes takes a full week to respond.. I got nervous and a little bit upset b/c I was thinking – doesn’t this guy want my business?
My fiance calmed me down and said that it does not necessarily mean he doesn’t care about us, or that he doesn’t want us to be his clients. People have different communication styles. I guess I’m a little bit Type A.
Once you do meet with your officiant, then you can decide with any doubt whether or not to hire him. Best of luck!
Post # 7
i am having the same problem with my invitation vendor. i love her to death and am so happy with her work but i cant get a response from her for the life of me. in my everyday business, it is customary to confirm receipt of an email to let someone know you are working on something. i have to keep in mind, this is not the same for every one else. she also always tells me she is swamped, plus i found out she has a newborn to tend to. i love her work and for that, i will deal with slow communication anyday.