(Closed) Would you include this on your invitation, even if it's a formal wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Would you leave this on the RSVP?
    No - it automatically takes down the formality too much : (12 votes)
    29 %
    No - because I'd want exclusive choice in music : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Yes - it does take down the formalilty, but I'd rather have a hopping dance floor : (6 votes)
    14 %
    Yes - I don't think it alters the formality and it's a good idea! : (21 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think it alters the formality of it.  I am not a huge fan of the wording of it though.

    Post # 5
    1777 posts
    Buzzing bee

    How about something like:

    “Let’s dance! Here’s my song request ____________________________”

    Post # 6
    5400 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t like it. Could you put something on your wedding website where people can suggest songs?

    Post # 7
    6 posts
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Definitely awkward – better to ask your closest friends off-line for their music input.  I would also be more specific about the “tenderloin”.  Beef tenderloin?  Pork tenderloin?  And I don’t think the temperature needs to be included.

    Post # 8
    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @fascinated:  I like this.

    And I love that you are considering your guests’ music tastes!

    Post # 10
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Great idea. I really don’t think it takes down the formality. Even formal weddings have dance floors and people want to have a good time. 

    Post # 11
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our wedding is black tie and I wouldn’t have had any reservations about putting that in our invitations. I really like it!

    Post # 12
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    What about asking people to put their music requests on the back?  It could just be an italicized note on the bottom of the invitation that way, and it would look more formal while still giving guests an opportunity to make requests.  

    Post # 13
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I don’t see any problems with this.  We did the same thing.  Our wording was “Any dance song suggestions?” with room to write underneath it.

    Post # 14
    5 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We included this on our RSVP! I love it… the one time I went to a wedding that had done this people went crazy when their song came on! 


    We worded  it like this:

    What song is guaranteed to get you on the dance floor?



    Good luck!

    Post # 15
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @IowaDDS13:  as for the “medium cooked”, if someone really cares, they’ll ask the waiter or someone in charge I would think.

    Post # 16
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it takes the formality down a tad, but no big deal. 

    That said, i put song requests on my reply card too, and almost all the parent aged guests requested their own wedding song, so it really wasn’t THAT helpful, unless you’re open to playing all 70’s/80’s slow songs all night… 

    If you’re worried about taking down the formality, I don’t think you’ll miss out on gleaning vital information to keep a bopping dance floor if you remove it.


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