(Closed) would you invite her? (BFF from highschool)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Meet up and catch up, sure … but don’t feel bad not inviting someone you haven’t spoken to in a couple years. If you’ve sent your invites out already, I’d say too bad for her? Maybe just invite her for dancing after dinner…

Post # 4
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t invite her out of guilt, only if you truly want her there. I have friends from high school who we only communicate now and again via facebook and they aren’t being invited.  I’m not having a small wedding or anything either, I just am choosing to only invite those friends I am close to now.  I’d rather have more of our family there (FI has a HUGE family) then have friends I rarely talk to.  

Post # 5
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MsTargaryen:  I wouldn’t invite her – I mean, unless you really want her there. You haven’t spoken to her in forever, and she doesn’t even know you are engaged. I don’t think her feelings will be hurt. I know in the same situation mine wouldn’t be. 


Post # 6
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was only 3 years out of HS and none of my “bffs” from school were invited to our wedding. Sometimes, friends are friends for.a while and then you grow out of each other and that’s okay. If you havent spoken in years, don’t invite her because you feel guilty.

Post # 7
583 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t invite her either.  Friendships fade, it’s totally normal.  She’s probably contacting you to reconnect and talk weddings, so maybe you will grow back together, but you also might not.  

I’m inviting only one friend from HS and she wasn’t even my BFF at the time, though we were good friends.  But we remained in touch, and that’s why I’m inviting her and not my actual BFF (who I had a huge falling out with in college).  I don’t talk to the friend I’m inviting frequently, but I visit her every time I go home and I was a reader in her wedding 1 year ago.

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