Post # 1
My High school BFF and I went our separate ways once graduating (11 years ago!). We remained friends, and she hung out with my fiance and I several times when we started dating. However, we lost touch with eachother and it has been 2 years since the last time we spoke. (and by spoke I mean facebook-messaged eachother).
Fast forward 2 years and I have become engaged, got a job, moved, and made my wedding guest list. She is not on it…she lives several states away and honestly I have no clue what is going on with her. My wedding is in 2 months.
Fast forward to today. Over the weekend her Facebook status is updated. Now she is engaged. Monday, I get a facebook message from her, wanting to catch up and know all about what is going on with me. Um…. I am so confused now. Should she be invited? Am I going to be hurting someone’s feelings by not inviting her? Should I have had her on the list all along? bah….
Advice bees? She doesnt even know I am engaged.
Post # 3
Meet up and catch up, sure … but don’t feel bad not inviting someone you haven’t spoken to in a couple years. If you’ve sent your invites out already, I’d say too bad for her? Maybe just invite her for dancing after dinner…
Post # 4
I wouldn’t invite her out of guilt, only if you truly want her there. I have friends from high school who we only communicate now and again via facebook and they aren’t being invited. I’m not having a small wedding or anything either, I just am choosing to only invite those friends I am close to now. I’d rather have more of our family there (FI has a HUGE family) then have friends I rarely talk to.
Post # 5
@MsTargaryen: I wouldn’t invite her – I mean, unless you really want her there. You haven’t spoken to her in forever, and she doesn’t even know you are engaged. I don’t think her feelings will be hurt. I know in the same situation mine wouldn’t be.
Post # 6
I was only 3 years out of HS and none of my “bffs” from school were invited to our wedding. Sometimes, friends are friends for.a while and then you grow out of each other and that’s okay. If you havent spoken in years, don’t invite her because you feel guilty.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t invite her either. Friendships fade, it’s totally normal. She’s probably contacting you to reconnect and talk weddings, so maybe you will grow back together, but you also might not.
I’m inviting only one friend from HS and she wasn’t even my BFF at the time, though we were good friends. But we remained in touch, and that’s why I’m inviting her and not my actual BFF (who I had a huge falling out with in college). I don’t talk to the friend I’m inviting frequently, but I visit her every time I go home and I was a reader in her wedding 1 year ago.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice ladies!