Member- aventurin
- 4 years ago
Hello bees!
Short: If your FI’s (female) friend was his ex, would you invite her to your bacheloretteparty? This is nothing that really upsets me, nor is it a topic right now, I was just wondering.
Long: BF (yes, bf – he’s asking me about all the details without having proposed yet) and I talked about bachelor/bachelorette-party yesterday and he said, I would have to invite his ex-gf, once I’ll have mine. (Where I live, bride/groom gives a guestlist to MOH/BM)
To give you a little background: My bf (36) split up with his first love (let’s call her Jill) about 11 years ago because she cheated on him while he planned on proposing. Years passed and they got friends – in fact, she’s one of his closest friends.
This may sound weird, but I have no problem with this. I am his best friend, I always come first, he loves me from the bottom of his heart and it has been a long time ago that the two of them were a couple. Meanwhile, she decided to never get married or have children, she’s been in a relationship for 5 years now, too.
Overall I have to admit, that I don’t like her that much. (She’s okay, but ‘not my type’). First, because she hurt my bf. Sorry, can’t forgive that, although it’s silly. Second, She’s that kind of woman who’s always fishing for compliments and quite selfish. Jill says stuff like ‘I hope the two of you don’t ever get married, because I like you and married women always get bitchy.’ or she says ‘I honestly don’t know why you study law for 7 years just to get married and have kids, you’re throwing away your potential, just because you’re a woman.’.
(Don’t get me wrong, she absolutely respects our relationship and is happy for us: Bf and I had a hard time about two years ago where he wasn’t sure if our relationship would work out. He told me afterwards, that Jill was the one to kick his ass and tell him that he searched for years for me and he’d be an idiot, if he’d ever end things with me instead of working out whatever comes. She often says things like ‘you two are meant to be together.’, too.)
Well, back to topic, bf and I talked about our bachelor/bachelorette parties and he said, he’d only want guys to be invited at his and, because it would be mean to exclude Jill, I would have to invite her to mine. Although it was over a decade ago that they were a couple, would you invite her to your bachelorette party if you were me? I’m not sure if this would be kind of awkward.
I’d love to hear your opinions 🙂
