Post # 17
He’s just the kind of person who requires constant validation that he’s wanted while simultaneously doing things that make people not want him around.
Getting married is a personal choice, if he chooses not to get married then so be it, but this is your choice and as a friend he should be supportive of you and your choices and come to the wedding and keep his mouth shut. He’s a drama queen and not someone I’d want as a friend, but if he’s someone you like to have around then invite him. Expect a snarky remark about not believing in marriage, and have some sort of smart comeback. Good luck with that one.
Post # 18
@bebero: +1. This is a light heartedand non-confrontational way to approach the situation. Added bonus: it makes the person feel a bit silly.
Post # 19
He is, of course, entitled to hold his own opinions about marriage. However, he seems to have expressed them in a particularly charmless manner and I doubt that I’d extend him an invitation. As my grandmother used to say, he appears to be somewhat “body everyself”. All he was required to do was accept or decline an invitation, not write a dissertation on the subject.
Also, marriage is not contagious. One can safely attend a wedding without coming away fatally infected.
Post # 20
My own brother doesn’t believe in marriage… not even a little bit. He’s pretty actively against it, actually – but he knew that it was important to us and was even in the bridal party (but we told him we would totally understand if he didn’t want to be), so I say invite him anyway!
Post # 21
@bebero: That’s fantastic! Knowing him, though, he’d go off on, “I’m Atheist and Christmas is a consumer holiday and Santa is a pagan figure” and so on and so forth. Really, most of the time, he’s a great guy and a good friend, but there are times when he’s just cray-cray and we have to walk on eggshells.
Post # 22
@HonoraryNerd: LOL! I totally get the type. Don’t mention Christmas or anything like that, then, but send an invitation with a little joke of that type. It doesn’t ignore the elephant in the room, it’s not cheesy, and it leaves the ball on his court.