would you invite them?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
Member
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

No.  I wouldn’t invite them.  If you were inviting all the other parents it would be a different story, but you’re not.  Why make a special exception for people who are awful to you?

Post # 3
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1841 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I also wouldn’t invite them. Just keep saying no.

Post # 4
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658 posts
Busy bee

I agree that I wouldn’t invite them, but you seem to have some very weird hostility towards your fiances parents.

Post # 5
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5583 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Why is smith even a groomsman? He only has nasty, snotty things to say to him. Unless it’s just his parents making those comments, I had a bit of trouble following this.

I would stand my ground on the parents, you don’t need nastiness in your life. But it’s only because of what they said to YOU, that Fourth of July drama belongs to your future in laws, not to you.

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 8 months ago by  Sansa85. Reason: Edited out of confusion
Post # 6
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4650 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Nope. Don’t invite them.

FWIW my parents are good friends with the parents of a school friend who I grew distant from at 14. I am 27 and haven’t seen her since before she met her partner and they’ve lived together 4 years! Her parents made the guest list because my parents are good friends with them and Fiance and I see them frequently.  They’re “family friends”.  I saw them this weekend, the husband went on both my brother’s stag dos, etc.  The wife has outright asked for an invite for her daughter and her partner. She even went so far as to suggest we change the schedule for our wedding so we could “make a gesture” and “invite them to some of it”. Um, no.

Post # 8
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5583 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Are his parents contributing money to the wedding? If so, I would decline the money and keep with the guest list that you want

Post # 11
Hostess
2011 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I would shut this down by telling them no, and that there will be further discussion on the topic.

Doesn’t matter who is paying, their actions and words towards you and your Fiance speak volumes, and they should not be invited, no matter what who says what about being polite.

Post # 12
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1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Nope! Even if they are very pleasant people, you do not have to invite them.

Post # 13
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

eh, no. no invite- be done.

Post # 14
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658 posts
Busy bee

alfalfasprout10518 :  “Ummmm are we being serious with this?! what is wrong with these people?!”

This just comes off rude and insensitive to me. I know this is an online forum, but you are so hot on this issue here that I have to believe that comes out in real life when dealing with this issue as well. I definitely don’t think you need to invite them, but I would personally try to understand why they are so adament about inviting the Smiths, rather than reacting in this way. Clearly there is a reason this is important to them that probably goes deeper than you know. You seem intent on painting your in-laws as crazy rather than trying to understand where they are coming from. Their reasoning shouldn’t change your decision to not invite the Smiths, but if my in-laws were adament about something I would at least want to understand the motivation behind it.

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