(Closed) Would you judge a baby registry with big ticket items?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I absolutely wouldn’t judge. Even before I knew about completion discounts, I would assume that the big ticket items were for the grandparents or to serve as a checklist.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t judge at all, providing, like PP said, that there were plenty of lesser expensive items as well (and do try to keep an eye on that as you get closer to your shower to make sure the less expensive items aren’t running out!). I think most women understand or have experienced the glory of a completion discount, so you should be okay. Plus you never know if people will want to buy the big ticket items or if they want to go in with a bunch of friends to get them for you. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@cora_123:  I found with my SIL she didn’t want to put the big items on her registry for stated reasons and then her coworkers thought they were being awesome and all pitched in and bought her a stroller, but she’d done a TON of research and wanted a very particular kind, so she had to return their very generous gift (obviously she felt AWFUL) and use the balance to get other things so she could get the stroller she and my brother had researched about.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was looking at a gf’s registry the other day and I was a little blown away by what she had on there.  I mean EVERYTHING anyone could ever need to raise a baby to toddler was listed.  I won’t say I judged her for it, but I was a little put off – it was just so much stuff.  How does she have what seems like nothing when her baby is due in 4 weeks?!

I am in the process of putting together our registry, and have only added 1 big item (high chair), that’s listed for $299.00.  Everything else, is below $100.00 right down to $1.99.  We have purchased all our big ticket items as we see them going on sale.  I was afraid of the judgement too, hence only the 1 item, and I still feel guilty about it.

 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@cora_123:  As long as you ask for items with a range of prices (include diapers) then it shouldn’t be a problem.  

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I plan on putting everything under the sun on mine! Like PP said, people go in on gifts together, and you get the discount f you don’t get it!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would assume you were planning on buying it yourself after the fact with the discount.  If the store gives you a discout for completing your registry and you need it anyway, why not?

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t judge, but if you feel uncomfortable with it, check the policy on the store’s completion discount.

You might be able to add the big-ticket items after the shower, but before your due date, and you’d still get the discount.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cora_123:  I wouldn’t judge at all. Glad you already know about the “completion discount”- this is an awesome reason to put anything on the registry so you can always buy after at a discount:) I did this with Amazon and Pottery Barn Kids- a great deal!

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cora_123:  I wouldn’t. I put every single thing I have bought/want to buy on my registry. One for the completion discount and also I get a % back of what is bought in a gift card after, and two as a checklist for myself to make sure I have everything I need. If someone wants to judge my registry for having my big items on there, go for it. No one is forcing them to buy it.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s not rude, and just because some people can only afford to buy you a 50.00 gift that doesn’t mean your parents wouldn’t buy you a 500.00 crib, so if someone judges, too bad for them.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister put everything on her registry including the crib, highchair dresser, glider, etc. But in doing that she knew my mom was getting the crib and bedding and other family members were getting the glider, etc. She wanted to make sure that those getting these items were getting what she had picked out, researched and coordinated. I don’t think anyone judged her for it. But she did have all price points covered with the rest of it from the swing to clothes to toys to diapers. And anything she didn’t get she planned on using her completion discount.

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I would only judge if all you had were big ticket items. I echo PPs – put a good range of items and you should be good to go.

 

Post # 30
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Worker bee

I had put absolutely everything I was going to buy on my registry, so I could remember what I had picked out, once the nursery was ready. My daughter actually came 8 weeks early (before my shower and before I had bought anything using the completion discount). I had actually just finished emptying the nursery and painted it the day before she was born. When my parents came into town to meet their grand daughter and saw the empty nursery, they went and bought out my entire registry and had the room put together before I ever left the hospital. It was wonderful coming home to everything already done and with the exact things I had picked out and planned to buy. I knew they had spent thousands and thousands of dollars and we tried to reimburse them, they insisted that they were happy to buy everything and encouraged me to take a longer unpaid maternity leave.

My baby shower wasn’t supposed to be for a few more weeks, so when it was held a couple weeks after my daughter was born, everything had already been purchased, so I was given lots and lots of diapers, body wash, and clothes.

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d be surprised not to see any big ticket items – like others said, as long as there were smaller, less expensive items, as well, go for it! A bunch of my relatives just got together and bought my cousin the crib she registered for – it also gives people a sense of your style for baby stuff so they can keep that in mind when picking out a gift.

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