(Closed) Would you judge a pregnant lady for smoking?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
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  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Yep I’ll admit it. I’d judge all day. I wouldn’t say anything to her though unless we were very close. I’m sure it’s very difficult to quit cold turkey especially if she’s a heavy smoker, but I couldn’t help but judge seeing as how terrible it is not just for the baby but for her as well. 

    Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Honestly, I think smoking is gross in general so when I see a pregnant woman smoking I definitely judge.

    Post # 4
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If you have never tried to quit smaking then you have no business judging anyone who tries and fails. And if you’ve quit smoking, then don’t be so holier- than-thou. Yes, everyone knows that pregnant women should not smoke but that doesn’t give anyone a right to get all sanctimonious over it. 

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee

    Yes. My mum’s friend smoked throughout all her three pregnancies and my friend and her siblings had all sort of things wrong with them, like having a bone dislocated while doing a backstroke or getting a fracture for doing normal stuff every couple of months, and I would not wish that on anyone. You should tell her off as a friend, and hopefully she takes your advice.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    Yes I would. Yes I do. Some things are deserving of judgement. 

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee

    I’d mostly feel sad that she’s so addicted, she can’t even stop smoking during her pregnancy. 

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee

    With everything we now know about smoking and what it does to our bodies, there is no excuse. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2006

    Horseradish:  

    What is so sanctimonious about judging someone for endangering the health of a baby? 

     

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Yes I would judge. Smoking to me is gross as is on a daily basis and while I completely understand how hard it is to quit (saw my uncle go through it), it’s different when you chose to create a life in you that you are now 100% responsible for. If it were just her, fine go mess up your own health but to potentially do that  an innocent child is just irresponsible to say the least. I wouldn’t say anything unless you are THAT close that you can because from the post, she seems to know the consequences but just can’t stop. 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I wouldn’t say anything to the mother (I know she already knows it’s harmful), but I’d be judging up a storm to myself.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    100% yes.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    Yes I judge, but I judge all smokers. It’s a disgusting unhealthy habit. 

    I would say something to a family member. I don’t have friends that are smokers (and won’t ever be friends with someone that smokes). 

    Disclaimer: I smoked for 10 years (mostly teen years). I have been a non smoker for 8 years now. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    My mom smoked through pregnancies with all 5 of us kids…….

    My sister smoked through her 2 pregnancies (in addition to drinking mountain dew and many coffee drinks). She’s a nurse and knows better but her excuse was our mom did and we were fine (umm…maybe they were but I ended up w/ terrible allergies and respiratory issues all through growing up).

    She tried to cut back and I guess her dr said it would be worse to stop because of withdrawl.

    Our SIL was furious because she had been tring to pregnant too and then my sister wasn’t even trying, did not want a 2nd one. She couldn’t be around her…………(& sil used to smoke socially but would never when pregnant)

    Any my sister has several health conditions…ugh…so yea. It sucks

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Yes, I’m afraid so. I wouldn’t say anything though.  

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