(Closed) Would you judge me for this?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I mean, more people get jobs because they know someone in the buisness than don’t. I wouldn’t feel too bad. It’s a hard economy. You have to do what you can. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you do what you need to to get a job, get some experience, and move forward in your career. Getting a job elsewhere seems to be all about who you know, not what you know anyway – so why turn down a good job from your family? I wouldn’t look down on you unless you were a poor employee who seemed to just be floating in the company – rocking your job and being a good employee is nothing to be ashamed of, no matter who your boss is.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I assume you have the skillset required for a legit vacancy there, and will earn your paycheck just like everyone else there (is it a big company?) so it could be a good place to temporarily land. I doubt it’s your dream job though so I’d keep my eyes open and resume polished, so when opportunity comes knocking you’re completely ready for it!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Take the job! That’s what I’d do… That’s what I DID! 

I work for a company where “nepotism is rampant… and highly encouraged.” That’s a direct quote from the 3rd generation owner of a more than 100 yr old company, where my Father-In-Law got me a job.  

There’s nothing wrong with continuing to further your family’s dream and NOTHING to be ashamed about in working with your dad. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

As a lady that works with her father, I can relate… some people think that my life’s gotta be pretty cushy since my boss is my Dad, and of course I’m just taking the path of least resistance…but honestly, who cares what other people think?

In all sincerity, when clients find out that we’re family, they love that it’s a family business because that is something people can get behind AND the first words out of their mouths are, “I could never work with my family…how do you do it?”

Working with your family is harder, more demanding and challenging because there’s more at stake, they know what your capable of and the expectation is higher, AND the emotional element can be explosive at times.

When I hear someone works with their family, I respect the hell outta them and their people, it takes nerves of steel.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lemma:  I work for my dad! Don’t be ashamed. Seriously.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would not judge you, and especially not in the current job market. Go for it!

 

My future Mother-In-Law works for her family business, and she definitely doesn’t have a cushy job. Since she is family, she is expected to be more invested and committed than anyone else, and she puts in a lot of extra hours every week.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Lemma:  I will probably get hated on for this, but I honestly would not judge you. You had a solid plan for career independence and self reliance that didn’t pan out and your dad stepped in as a parent to take care of you by offering you a job. Fine by me.

It’s when people go to college and spend their entire degree just copying off people’s homeworks and generally not caring because they have a family job position waiting that I get pissed off.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would go for it!

I think it takes a lot of balls to work with your family, and I’d give props to anyone that did it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lemma:  I would rather work for my dad anyways because he knows my strengths and challenges me to do better. I don’t get free passes.

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