(Closed) Would you keep the ring, or sell it? (not from a FI or anything)

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I keep the ring, or sell it?
    Keep it, you may regret getting rid of it : (28 votes)
    60 %
    Sell it, you could use the money for the wedding : (16 votes)
    34 %
    Other... : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    This is a tricky on but I think you may regret it later.

    Post # 4
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It’s probably something I’d keep in my jewelry box, even though it has sort of a bittersweet memory attached to it. If i ever thought I could regret parting with something, I’d hold onto it until I was SURE i wouldn’t regret it.

    I have this really hideous, ugly gold bracelet my dad gave me that was his moms. I really don’t care for the look of it, and it’s worth a few grand. But, I can’t bring myself to part with it just for the money. I didn’t care for my grandma very much (long story) so I have sort of weird feelings about it. As such, it stays in the jewelry box. I’ll probably always keep it. Although, I’ve only worn it once. Maybe someday.

    Not sure if that helps =

    Post # 5
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I say keep it for now. You can always sell it later. You can’t un-sell it later. Give it another year or two and see how you feel.

    Post # 6
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Do you think your bio mom would maybe like to have it back if you don’t think you’ll use it?

    Post # 7
    Member
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You may just want to put it away for now. No harm in waiting a few years to decide how you feel about it.

    Post # 8
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    4023 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would set it aside. You may regret it later in life. If not, no harm in having it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is up to you.  Sometimes, getting rid of old things is freeing, in a way. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had a necklace that my bio-dad (similar situation to yours, only reverse) gave my mom as a gift when they were dating. I kept it for years, but always felt uneasy about it. I recently sold it for scrap gold and it felt good! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    457 posts
    Helper bee

    If it was me i wouldn’t sell it, i would put it aside. Maybe one day you will end up wanting to do something with it. What about making the ring into something different.. like earrings, or a necklace? Do you have pics of the ring? If you and your mom ever do reconnect it might be nice to actually still have that piece of jewelry

    Post # 12
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would keep it. My mom sold her rings from her marriage to my father. I don’t really care for my father, but I was kind of like, “hey, that wasn’t nice.” I kept all the jewelry that my daughters fathers gave me, so I can give it to my girls when they’re older. But, I hold sentimental value in objects, and some people don’t.

    Post # 13
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    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If you’re questioning whether or not to keep it, keep it. Don’t get rid of it unless you are certain that it is what you want to do If you’re not sure, wait until you are sure to decide.

    I personally would keep it only if I thought it would ever come up in the future- that she might ask for it back or ask to see it/show it to someone, or ask if I still have it. If it will never come up and you’ll never wear it and never want to give it to someone else, why keep it?

    Post # 14
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    683 posts
    Busy bee

    Weddings, marriage and families are very complicated things and we can’t just push history aside. If you hate the ring, why don’t you recycle the gold into something new a la greenkarat? You can either keep the original gold or recycle it and have something else made. If you choose the first option you’re making that ring your own- with new memories.

    I hope that helps!

    Post # 15
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Keep it.  You might regret selling it later.

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