Post # 1
Would you all be irritated if your friend asked you to pay for your bridesmaid dress??
I’m afraid I won’t be able to afford buying 7 or 8 dresses so I have been thinking of staying in the 40 to 60 dollar range and asking them to buy them. Is that bad?
Post # 3
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man more times than I can count. I’ve ALWAYS expected to pay for my dress.
Post # 4
No…I paid for my own bridesmaid dress. As long as its not outrageously priced, it’s fine.
Post # 5
I have also always paid for my dress, but a budget was agreed upon beforehand.
Post # 6
I figure buying a dress my best friend picks out is just part of the admission price.
Post # 7
I think if you stuck with the $40-$60 range then youll be fine!
Post # 8
I hope they won’t because I am going to have to ask them to. The dress I really like is 150 but we are going to go check it out and see what looks best on them.
Post # 9
@EatPrayLove: Yeah, as long as you stay in a reasonable price range, you should be fine. And if anyone has problems with affording that, you can deal with it as it arises, instead of covering it for everyone.
Post # 10
Not at all. Buying the dress is part and parcel of being a bridesmaid. It is great that you are being budget conscious on their behalf, though 🙂
Post # 11
Where are you from? That’s the important part here.
In the US, BMs are expected to pay for their own dresses. In the UK, the bride pays. I dunno about Australia/South Africa/other parts of the Anglosphere, though.
Post # 12
It depends on where you are located. In the US most women expect to pay for their own bridesmaid dresses. Mine are about $150 before alterations. Many are in the $200-250 range. Once you get beyond that (or even below that depending on the individual), many people get (rightfully so) very upset about the cost. I always prefer to spend less, and I think most of your girls will be pleasantly surprised if you have them spend $40-60 on a dress. In many countries outside of the US (I know Austrailia is one of them) the bride is expected to pay for the bridesmaid dresses.
Post # 13
Etiquette these days says that bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. If you have any of them that you KNOW can’t afford (2 or 3 girls, whatever you can afford) then offer to pay for their gowns. There were 3 girls who I REALLY wanted as bridesmaids, but I knew they couldn’t afford their own dresses so I offered to pay for them.
Post # 14
@EatPrayLove: Not really. If I’m paying they really can’t argue with me. I’m buying it and you’re wearing it. When the bms pay, I feel like they deserve at least some sort of say.
Post # 15
I think most people know that when you’re a Bridesmaid or Best Man you’re paying for the dress…
Post # 16
$40-$60 is excellent for a dress! I’ve always spent over $150-200 for dresses in friends’ weddings. I would absolutely NOT be mad!