Would you let someone else try on your e-ring?

posted 2 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you let someone else try on your engagement ring?
    Yes : (150 votes)
    82 %
    No : (33 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

    Nope wouldn’t do it.  My BF literakky ripped my ring out of my hand and tried it on in excitement for me. But honestly I felt like that was not her place to do that.  I wasn’t happy as it felt like the intimacy you spoke of was tampered with if that makes sense. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Lol, I’d be way more concerned about someone trying on my underwear than my ring! 

    I don’t know that I would be cool with my husband giving my ring to someone to try, but I don’t think that merits betrayal status.  I would explain why I don’t want him to do that going forward, but then I’d let it go.  

    As for myself, I can imagine quite a few scenarios where I would let certain people try it on. 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper

    Sure. I’ve done it a few times, makes no never mind to me. It was cute when the young girls at work tried it on. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    @daxsymbiote:  I completely think it’s ok, but I’m not a superstitious person. I k is a lot of people think it’s bad luck, I let several of my friends and family try mine on.

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper

    I would be fine with someone I know well trying on my ring but it’s totally inappropriate without your permission. The difference here is that you had your sister’s permission, whereas in the article you read the man just let someone try it on without even asking his fiance. That was wrong and the woman had every right to be upset. 

    On my end I would not ask. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    @daxsymbiote:  With permission, yes. And I’ve done so quite a few times. it’s no big deal to me. Without permission, no. I’m not sure why somebody would be touching my things when I wasn’t present…that would upset me deeply.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2021

    I would let someone try on my ring if they asked! I don’t see any problem with it. I would be upset if someone ELSE, like my fiance, let another person try on my ring first without asking my permission, though, just because I think it would be rude for him to do things with my property without asking me. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee

    I know some people think it’s bad luck to let others try their ring on, but I’ve never heard of it being described as a betrayal! To me that sounds extreme, like (no offense) someone thinks that someone else simply trying the ring on might indicate or lead to cheating. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    I would think that how I would feel about my SO allowing someone else to try the ring on would depend on who it was and under what circumstances. If it’s a stranger on the street, that’d be irresponsible and weird. But honestly, I imagine that if a guy goes ring shopping with a woman (one of your friends, his/your mom), then that woman is trying things on to show how it would look on her hand and may even try on the finished ring if she comes to the last appointment. That just seems practical.

    In the circumstance you described above, my assumption is that this happened before the couple got engaged? So the girlfriend excused herself or something, her fiance was so excited that he showed the ring to their friend (may have even asked her to try it so he could see how it looks on a woman’s finger), and the girlfriend came back as the friend was still trying the ring on? I mean sure I wouldn’t want that to be how I find out my SO is going to propose, but it certainly wouldn’t ruin the ring for me.

    As far as whether I’d let someone try on my ring–again, I don’t believe in superstitions–sure, if I trusted that person. At the end of the day, the ring is a symbol of your love (not the manifestation of it) that has sentimental value, but what matters most is the relationship. 

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    @ricli:  I completely agree that people shouldn’t do that. They should take cues from the engaged person, ask if they think the person may be open to it, and be ok with someone saying no.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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    @anabee323:  Totally agreed.  Although I’m open to my future DIL trying it on because it could be hers if something happens to me. 

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee

    I took mine off because my mom wanted a closer look (she has bifocals). She put it on without asking, which annoyed me at first. But then my littlest sister asked to try it on too and I ended up enjoying the moment and having fun watching them. It was only a few minutes and at the end of the day, it wasn’t a big deal. 

    However, that was family and I allowed it. I think it’s a way different scenario having your man let another woman try on your ring, especially when you weren’t there at first to ask you if it was okay. That gives off super weird vibes to me personally and I’d be raising some questions. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee

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    @aev1205:  I think a lot of men are clueless enough to not realize how women feel about their rings & kinda innocently want to show the ring off to show what a good job they did for their fiancee. That’s where my mind goes at first anyway (barring no warranted trust issues).

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Yes, the bigger question is why the ring wasn’t on her finger. If my SO let someone else put the ring on for the first time instead of me, I probably wouldn’t be happy, and if this is how I found out he had a ring I’d be upset. But again, the bigger question is why the ring wasn’t on her finger. 

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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    @echomomm:  Not sure mine wasn’t on my finger because I was washing my hands and toting lotion in. When I was finished and went to out the ring back in she just ripped it it off my hand. I didn’t think she meant harm she was excited.  But I was like Damn girl can you ask me first??😂😂

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