Would you let someone else try on your e-ring?

posted 3 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you let someone else try on your engagement ring?

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  • Post # 16
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    Blushing bee

    I would happily let certain friends try it on! But I wouldn’t be thrilled knowing he’d given the go-ahead without my knowledge. I think most men don’t think the same way though, just ‘sure, OK, girls love this stuff, go for it’. But like I said, I would definitely tell him not to do it again ๐Ÿ˜…

    Post # 17
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    1047 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @daxsymbiote:  lol ummmm I’ve tried on many friends’ rings ๐Ÿ˜‚ I didn’t own a diamond for the longest time and I really wanted to see what one would look like on me hahaha. I wouldn’t mind a friend trying mine on either, although I have smaller fingers than most of them so they might not be able to get it on. I WOULD be upset if my husband let another woman try my ring on. There’s a difference between ME letting her, and HIM letting her. I’m kind of a psycho jealous bitch though. He’s aware and I think he’d know better ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜…

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    It would hugely depend on context. If my girlfriend asked me, I’d say no problem! But I was really upset when I found out that my now ex-fi had shown the ring he’d bought to his Mom and she’d tried it on before he proposed to me with it. Ex-Mil and I REALLY didn’t get on, there were huge boundary issues and she went out of her way to successfully break us up. So I did feel betrayed in that circumstance.

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee

    Yup.  It’s all just molecules.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Intimate? It’s not a vibrator ๐Ÿ˜‚. I’ve tried on loads of my friends’ rings and couldn’t care less who tries on mine! Seriously not a big deal, and fun to share the ring love!

    Aside from my wedding band, my e-ring is the most special piece of jewellery I own… but other ladies handling it doesn’t tarnish the specialness. I’d side-eye anybody who made a fuss about this IRL.

    Post # 21
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    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    It wouldn’t  and doesn’t bother me.  I think it’s a compliment that someone would want to put my ring on their finger.  How many people don’t have the opportunity to afford any ring at all?  Or people who don’t have a special someone that chose them to marry?  At the end of the day, it’s an object, and yes it is very special but you don’t take it with you at the end and it doesn’t replace memories and experience and those matter most to me.  Besides, unless you’ve had that ring cut especially for you from rough…it likely belonged to someone else and worn on their finger ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
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    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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    @valintine:  Well your right it’s not a vibrator but it does feel good to know that someone bought something especially for me.  The intimacy I believe we are speaking of is the knowingness that a ring was bought and curated just for you. I would not want to share that with anyone period unless it was my daughter.  I prefer to keep my molecules to myself and give zero fucks about being side eyed. 

    Post # 23
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    61 posts
    Worker bee

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    @anabee323:  Very true. I guess I don’t understand why the ring wasn’t on her hand and why they couldn’t wait until she was back in the room to ask her if it was okay for the friend to try it on. That’s her jewelry/property. But maybe the friend grabbed it and slipped it on before the guy could get a word in. I wouldn’t like it if I left the room and a friend was going through my jewelry box or trying on a Target necklace, let alone an expensive ring. It just seems a little presumptuous and rude to me, but I guess that’s me being protective of my ring lol! It’s MY PRECIOUS. 

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee

    Yeah that seems like a complete overreaction lol. It’s a ring. I’d be wary of giving an expensive item to a rando, but as far as it being ruined or something because someone else’s finger touched it? Nah.

    Post # 25
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    4410 posts
    Honey bee

    I personally take is as a compliment when someone wants to try in my ring.  And I’m not talking about strangers.  Many friends have tried on my ring and I’ve tried on many engagement rings.  I would never rip it out of someone’s hands though because that is rude. My friends have offered and I’ve offered mine to be tried on.

    I’ve learned here that people are very guarded about their wedding sets and that’s perfectly understandable, but I’m just not.  I’m also not superstitious.  

     

     

     

    Post # 26
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    794 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I’d let any friends or family try it on, doesn’t matter to me at all. 

    Post # 27
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    6185 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If a friend asked sure but in the context of the Fiance letting someone else try it on no I don’t like that.  

    Post # 29
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2021

    I woudn’t care at all and am actually curious about those of you saying you would be jealous, or it’s a betrayal, etc. What is there to be jealous of…he isn’t proposing to someone else, it a sign of attraction or affection towards someone else (which is what usually inspires jealously?), the ring is going right back on your finger afterwards…I don’t get what the issue is. To call it a betrayal or say you wouldn’t look at the ring the same ever again seems like a huge overreaction!

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