- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
So hubby’s wife is a real peach…(Sarcasm). Anyways long story short she has no close relationship with hubby, hubby’s family. She’s very distant to his whole family and very self-involved. Anyways, a long time ago (last year) when we had our wedding she wanted to drop out of the wedding because i didn’t pick the bridesmaid dress she wanted, and instead chose the dress the other bridesmaids wanted (majority wins). Anyways it was a big ordeal. We’ve moved on, my marriage is rock solid, and we’re distant with each othr which is fine with me. I’m still friendly to her and she is fairly pleasant back. Nothing big to report. It was a big stressor last year but seems like we’ve moved on. Mostly because i tried to move on and be nice to her even though i was hurt by the things she said when i chose the different dress “that i’m fake (bc i didnt choose my “sister”), that i’m indecisive (whcih is true), etc.
Anyways i find out today, granted, 1 year later that the month before my wedding, my husband received a phone call from his sister asking, “Are you sure you want to marry her? and she continued to say a lot of shit about me.”
<br />This wasn’t a “oh are you sure? marriage is a big commitment?” but a more so “are you sure your wife is a x, y, z, etc” Hubby said he let her have it, made it clear he is extremely happy wtih me, said that she doesn’t know me (whcih is true) and has not talked about it since.
<br />Still I’m pissed and hurt. I’m nice to this girl! A girl/bridesmaid who a month before my wedding to the best hubby ever said this.
I want to move on, but would you be able to move on? I mean, i will move on and not bring this up, but it makes me not trust her nor do i want to put effort into her or a relationship whatsoever especailly if she would do this one month before the wedding, bring up all the dress drama last year (it was a big thing i just dont want to write about it). Anyways i just wanted to share, any thoughts? Like i said, i dont think it’s worth bringing up drama, especially since the relationship is distnat, but it definitely makes me mad and hurt and think “why should i put any effort into her?” She’s definitely the type of girl with her whole family she doesn’t put effort, so in order to have a relationship, you gotta put effort into her. Anyways thanks for listening.