Post # 1
One of my Aunts had the potential to make a lot more money than my Uncle. They had tried to have a baby for years and then finally adopted. Since, she was making almost twice the amount that he was, My Uncle stayed home with the baby. He became Mr. Mom. He took on the traditional housewife role. He cooked, cleaned, gave child care, grocery shopped, gave baths, and even hosted their daughters birthday parties, etc.
If you were the bread winner, and you could afford for someone to stay home, would you let your husband stay home and play Mr. Mom?
Is anyone considering or doing this already?
Post # 3
Um, I put “other.” Yes, of course I would let him do that, but not simply for the reason of me “making the most.” If I had a job I really loved that was good for us, I would probably let Darling Husband stay home- but not simply for the numbers/ money.
Post # 4
@cbee: Well that would make sense too 🙂
Post # 5
This is our life. Our son is 2 and my daughter is 11
My fine does all the housewife rolls. He shops cleans manages money takes kids to school and the baby to the park hosted play dates. Cooks most nights. I work long days and its very nice. He has his own business and works when he wants but while I am on the clock he is a dedicated stay at home father ..
Post # 6
@mwitter80: Yeah, I am pretty non-traditional in that way, so I would do it. I would love to have a job I loved, and would love to not have to give up that job. Dh would love to stay home! Probably whoever is happier career-wise at that time will keep on working 🙂
Post # 7
@cbee: We have a unique situation. My Darling Husband works second shift (3pm-11:30pm) so he’s home all day and then his son goes to his mothers for a few hours, and then depending on the day either I pick up my bonus son or his bio-mom does. So we really are split in responsibilities. For the time being, but we have talked about him staying at home, for financial reasons, once we have more children. Although, I would really love too. Keeping my fingers crossed for him to get a promotion 🙂
Post # 8
Fiance always says he’ll be quitting his job and staying home with our future kids…HA-HA! He’s always like: “It’s 2011 baby..anything can happen”
We could NEVER afford it, but if we could I wouldn’t mind if that’s what he really wanted to do. (Although I think he might be in for a rude awakening of just how much work it can be…. tee hee hee)
Post # 9
My Fiance and I have already talked about it.. and since i make more and he is already such a home-body we are excited about it!!
Post # 10
Hmm. That movie is nearly 30 years old. I remember it at the time, but I was hoping by now a dad raising his children would not be referred to as the wife letting him play at being a mom.
I know that is not how this was meant, but how would everyone here feel if someone asked about a husband letting them stay home and play mommy? Or conversely about whether or not your husband allows you to work out of the house?
To answer the question, I think if either parent wants to and can stay home to care for their children they should.
Post # 11
I’m the breadwinner and yes, me and the Darling Husband have already discussed that IF we could afford it, I would totally be okay with him being a Stay-At-Home Dad or Mr. Mom.
Post # 12
I would be so jealous if I went off to work every day and my husband got to stay home and be with the kids. We’re going to make similar amounts of money, so while theoretically one of us could stay home, instead I’m hoping both of us can work reasonable hours and have lots of family time.
Post # 13
I agree, that’s not playing mom, that’s being a DAD.
We’ve talked about it, and we hope one of us can drop down to working only part-time when kiddos arrive. But who that is will depend on our circumstances of the moment.
Post # 14
If he wants to stay home, that’s fine with me… all I know is I’m not gonna stay home for longer than my maternity leave (if I have children). I couldn’t even stand the thought of doing that. And if we both wanted to work, I would be more than fine with that as well. As long as he or I spend enough time with our children to form a proper attachment, it’s all good for us 🙂
Post # 15
@edgypeanuts: I refernced the movie so that everyone understood the question and read the post. That’s it. It wasn’t meant to offend anyone or become a sounding board about how dated the thought process is.
I just went and counted on FB I have 37 friends who have children (I didn’t count couples twice). Of the 37, 19 of the wives stay home, and none of the men do. I know this is a small sampling, but I still don’t think it’s as common as we think or want it to be.
Post # 16
FH is the best dad to his son. It is really one of the things I love most about him. He is just so good with him, I wonder if I could ever be so patient at him and if I made more money I would love for him to be the primary caregiver. We’ll see how it works out for us, it could go either way.