Post # 1
I’m talking about the posts that refer to him and/or your relationship. My BF knows that I post on weddingbee but he doesn’t know the topic. To my knowledge, he’s never gone onto the site to look for my posts.
Though I know he’s tempted to because he has said so a few times. He also knows my username so he could easily find me.
My posts about him have never been bad. They’ve never painted him or our relationship in a bad light because honestly, we have a wonderful relationship and he is an amazing man 🙂
But for some reason, I panic at the thought of letting him see my posts. I’m not sure why. Because I’m not posting about anything that he doesn’t already know or have discussed. Like my post on the Waiting board today. We already talked about me accidentally pressuring him before I even wrote that post. We had already resolved that conversation and I was feeling much better afterwards.
But I just wrote the post this morning because I still had some lingering feelings of sadness that I even made him feel pressured at all, even if it was just a little bit.
Anyway, so I’m just curious. My BF is currently working on my laptop and is trying to fix it. Because of that, he admitted to me that today he is really curious about what I post on Weddingbee. I kind of freaked out and went into full-on panic mode.
I’m not sure why! We talk about EVERYTHING. I really can talk to him about anything, there are absolutely no secrets between us. So why am I nervous about letting him see my WB posts??
Sigh. Does anyone else feel like this? Or am I just being ridiculous?
Post # 3
If he really wanted to, then of course I’d let him! But it does kind of freak me out for no reason… it’s like if he wanted to go through my phone. I have NOTHING to hide, but it would still somehow feel weird.
Post # 4
I don’t think I would be nervous. Sometimes I let him read my posts anyways. Now if I needed to vent directly about him, maybe? But only because I think he would feel weird about me talking to complete strangers about him. I’m pretty much an open book with him though! Even when I shouldn’t be…
Post # 5
I’m hoping for a proposal soon and have been posting about it. I’m paranoid he will see it and decide to wait a little longer. I let him see what I am posting about when we are together but I always post things about a proposal while he is away (like now). He also knows that I go here to vent so I don’t bug the crap out of him about wedding stuff. He tends to leave me alone unless he thinks I’m posting about an engagement.
Post # 6
NO! Because all my posts are on the waiting site and about how upset I am about my situation or I am responding to other people’s posts. He wouldn’t even understand why I am on here much less why I care to respond to other people’s issues or say congrats etc. Either way I don’t want him to see them. It just makes me feel squeamish
Post # 7
@LadyBlackheart: Sure. I don’t talk about my relationship here though. The only person I discuss my marriage with is my husband. Some of the threads I’ve read on here, I can understand why people wouldn’t want their partners to see…however, I can’t understand why they wouldn’t go to their partner to begin with rather than soliciting strangers for advice.
I will speak about other relationships on here – friendships, siblings, parents, etc. but no intimate details. I am a private person, even online. Having said that, I don’t keep any secrets from MrPanda99. He knows my name on here, he knows all my passwords, so sure, he could read it all (if he has a few weeks). He could even post as me if he felt like, but don’t worry – you’d be able to tell the difference, lol.
Post # 8
I’d let him if he lit a fire about it, and I’m really not hiding anything. But I’d be about as comfortable letting him dabble in my account here as I would letting him sit in on “girl talk” with my friends here. Women are from Venus, and no matter how nonjudgmental a guy is, we still seem a little weird… What with our over analyzing and over emotionalizing and such. So no thanks, I’ll avoid him getting on my account as long as I can!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t mind him seeing but I would rather have my privacy.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
My FI gets on weddingbee fairly often, just to look around and see if there’s anything interesting. He usually skips right to the intimacy section though :p It doesn’t bother me but we’re both really open, we go through each others phones, we know each other’s passwords to accounts/social networks. I don’t know if he really goes through the effort to hunt down my posts but it doesn’t bother me either way.
Post # 11
All the time. He finds it highly amusing. The only ones I hide are those that have anything to do with my dress.
Post # 12
If he wanted to see the posts – I’d let him. He has no interest in message board type places though. I’m surprised he even enjoys Facebook.
Post # 13
I would have no issues. The only thread I wouldn’t want him to see is any pictures of my dress. But other than that, I’d be okay. I mostly summarize anything I post about to him anyways. He is usually amused.
Post # 14
Eh. Sure. I haven’t said anything that I’m afraid for him to find out.
Post # 15
Sure. I never post anything really personal. I am a private person. The things I do post, I usually read out loud to him (if I find the topic interesting).
Post # 16
Nah– I don’t care. He has zero interest in what I do on here, though– so I highly dount he would take the time to scroll through my posting history.