Post # 1
I went to a dinner party last weekend, with about eight couples in attendance and ten kids. One couple who has a five year old girl and three year old boy arrived to the party with their boy wearing an elsa dress. This was a dress-up type dress worn over regular clothes. Never having met this couple before, I assumed their little boy was a girl. There were also many jokes made throughout the evening, such as asking the child if he wanted to carry a purse.
I don’t have children (yet) but I was surprised that the couple was so relaxed about this. If my young boy wanted to wear a dress, I would allow him to wear one at home, but I wouldn’t take him out in public in a dress at such a young age. My fiance agreed with me, but given that we are not parents yet, I wanted to ask the public: Would you let your three year old son wear a dress to a party?
Post # 2
No I personally would not.
Post # 3
Yes I would. Three year olds love to dress up. And I think it’s downright awful that the response to this was to tease him about it all night to his face and ask if he needed a purse. He’s three years old, WTF?
Post # 5
Yes. If my son loved Elsa and wanted to wear an elsa dress whether at home or in public…I’d be perfectly fine with it.
Post # 6
NO, I would not let my son wear a dress in private or in public.
Post # 7
No, absolutely not for several reasons including folks making jokes at his expense plus I don’t feel it is appropriate.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
princessandthepear: no I would not. But I also would not let my daughter wear an elsa dress to a dinner party. Costume and dress up is for home or play time. Now, a regular dress, I’m not sure. But I’m not a parent who thinks it’s ok to let kids wear whatever they want when going to events. Maybe on errands, or just a run to the grocery store when it’s just us and casual but I take care of my own appearance when attending events and I do the same for my children. the elsa dress isn’t appropriate for a dinner party, for a girl or boy. Also, a 3 year old doesn’t dictate his wardrobe in my home. I do. at 3 my son would have chosen to wear his pajamas everywhere had I allowed it. Call me what you will, but that’s my opinion on things like that.
Post # 9
I dressed up as Indiana Jones complete with make up beard when I was 4. O don’t see the difference. He may freaking love Elsa the way I loved Indy. There is an empowering feeling dressing up as your favorite character. Honestly, I’d expect more from the ones adults if they were joking about him carrying a purse. I plan on gender neutral parenting when I finally do have children.
Post # 10
No, not to the party. At home? Sure. Unless it was a costume party. But I wouldn’t let my son, or daughter, wear any type of costume to a typical dinner party that wasn’t specifically a costume party.
Post # 11
I mean Elsa’s got a sweet dress so I’m not surprised he’d want to wear it! I think it’s kind of crappy for the adults to make purse jokes, though. That’s how kids develop insecurities/complexes.
But yes, I’d let my son wear the dress. It’s perfectly normal for kids that small to want to dress up.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
I personally would not let my son wear a dress in public. However, I do not agree with the jokes that were said to the ONLY 3 year old. If I did let my son wear a dress out in public, I would spect people to be polite enough to not make it such a big deal, or ridicule my child in this danm age! With that being said this is a very hot topic and prepare yourself for a huge variety of answers.
Post # 13
Absolutely! I’m pregnant with a little boy, and would not ever think twice about letting him be who he wants to be, whoever that is.
Those other grownups should be ashamed of themselves for making fun of him. I would have high-fived him, and asked him what he loves about Elsa. Little boys SHOULD be taught to respect and admire strong females!
Post # 14
Yes, I would, if it was important to him. But I wouldn’t be thrilled about people’s judgemental responses and I would call them out for teasing him because that’s bullshit.
Post # 15
If it was like a nice dinner party, then no, only because a costume would not be appropriate. Like PP, I wouldn’t let my daughter wear an Elsa dress in that situation, either.
If my boy showed a real interest in dresses/girls’ clothes, etc, then I’d let him wear a normal dress if he really wanted to.