Post # 166
The idealism expressed on this thread is precious. Let’s not kid ourselves. The acknowledgment of gender roles in our society is pretty commonplace. I could not in good conscience allow my 3-year-old son to do something that would easily draw ridicule from both adults (messed up) and other children (they don’t hold back). If he was old enough to understand that and accepted the potential for negative reaction I’d allow him to make the decision for himself. It would be interesting to find out how fathers would feel about their boys wearing dresses.
Post # 167
My degree is in Sociology with a focus on gender and sexuality 🙂 Agree with everything you said 110%.
We are not being “precious”. We are showing compassion and understanding. We are open-minded and encouraging self-expression. The acknowledgement of the gender roles we have created has been commonplace only since the origin of the roles themselves. We need to challenge gender roles to not only promote equality among men and women, but to allow those who do not subscribe to our socially constructed roles feel comfortable with and accepting of their true selves.
Post # 168
- Wedding: A restaurant on the beach
There is a big difference between a dress and an elsa costume. If he loves the Frozen movie and has a favorite character why shouldn’t he be allowed to dress up like that character? So yes, if my child wanted to dress up in a costume where the cahracter was a different sex I would allow it. Anyone who would not allow it should ask themselves if they would allow their girl child to dress up as (and this is just an arbitrary example) Abraham Lincoln. If you would allow this but not the other then you need to seriously re-evaluate your morals and how you let societies biases influence you.
Post # 170
LOL. I wore some verrrrrry interesting clothing as a toddler, because my parents let me pick what I wanted to wear, IF I could dress myself. I wore tutus with wool sweaters, overalls and straw hats, little camo cargo shorts and matching tank tops… I’m sure my outfits got some stares, but it didn’t affect me in the slightest.
I’d let him wear the dress, and take lots of pics. 😉 (Assuming it wasn’t a dinner party, where a costume wouldn’t be appropriate. Then he could wear a nice dress and tights.)
Post # 171
my husband would be fine with it and my dad never had a problem when my brother wore a dress