(Closed) Would you let your three year old son wear a dress to a party?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you let your three year old son wear a dress to a party?

    Yes, I have no problem with this.

    No, I would not let my son wear a dress in public.

    Maybe, depending on the party.

    Other - please comment below

  • Post # 106
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

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    FutureMrsTY:  well there goes your argument about your comments being okay because it’s “your opinion.” Insulting someone else’s relationship….super classy. I think we should all get onboard with that! 

    Your future hubby dating a hateful, disrespectful bigot. What a turn-on. 

    ^^^Sweet, huh? 

    Post # 107
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    Busy bee

    I’d be fine with my son wearing a dress and this extends to any age.

    But I have noticed that a fair number of responses here have said it’s ok because he is ‘only 3’ or ‘just a child’. At what age would people then decide that he can no longer wear dresses? And why? I’m just curious as to the distinction and reasoning behind it or if it’s just being said as it’s and ‘safer’ way to say you think it’s fine for boys/men to wear whatever clothes they want to

    Post # 108
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    Helper bee

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    sunshineno5:  i didnt insult their relationship or her, . men wearing dresses isnt my thing.  same to you sunshine, all class..  you are insulting me, personally. 

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    Post # 109
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

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    FutureMrsTY:  insinuating that anything they want to do in their relationship is somehow “less-than” what you choose to do or find acceptable in yours is absolutely insulting. 

    Clearly, I mimicked the thing you said – specifically to give you a taste of your own medicine. Doesnt feel so great, huh? The difference is that I’ll absolutely admit I was insulting you and your hideous behavior. I also agree that I was being intentionally callous and indifferent to your feelings about it while you’re still over there acting like what you said was acceptable. It isn’t. 

    Post # 110
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    Helper bee

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    sunshineno5:  I was insinuating anything. What ever tickles your fancy, like i said. You however mimicked me? doesnt feel so great? I could care less.

    Post # 111
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I’ll admit it would give me pause, but we won’t be able to change anything by conforming to the norms.

    One of my male cousins would wear ballerina tutus to family reunions and birthday parties when he was in younger. Today, he’s in high school and on the football team. He’s also straight- not that it really matters.

    Post # 112
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

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    FutureMrsTY:

    •  *wasn’t* insinuating anything

    •No, you didn’t say whatever tickles your fancy, to each his/her own, etc. You mocked her when she commented that she would ask her Fiance to put on a dress when he got home and intimated that you found that behavior unattractive.

    • Yes, I did mimic you – and clearly you didn’t like it since you’re reacting to it. 

    • *Couldn’t* care less. Saying you could care means you care somewhat because there is room for you to care less that your current level of caring.

    Boys and men DO and CAN wear dresses and it’s nothing new. It has no bearing on their sexuality or their sex appeal. If you don’t like it, that’s totally fine – it doesn’t change anything.

    Children shouldn’t be mocked or harassed by adults and if it is occurring, any witnesses should put a stop to it.

    Other people do things in their bedrooms that don’t appeal to your sexuality – get over it because it has nothing to do with you.

    The majority of people (including those polled) don’t agree with your opinion; so take a step back, do some research and open yourself up to the idea that they might have some wisdom to impart.

    Or don’t…but don’t be surprised when you’re called out for being a bigot because you can’t think beyond the societal constructs which says boys have short hair, wear pants, like the color blue and play with trucks and girls have long hair, wear dresses, like the color pink and play with princess dolls. 

    Educate yourself and you’ll be amazed at how much information is out in the world: http://www.experienceproject.com/question-answer/Why-Did-Men-Stop-Wearing-Skirts-After-They-Started-Wearing-Pants-But-Women-Still-Wear-Skirts-And-Pants/493823

    This is has been fun and all, but I have more important shit to do than debate someone who is in an indefensible position. In the meantime, the poster and her Fiance are probably playing hot-and-heavy dress up and loving every second of it. 

    Post # 113
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Of course I’d let my kid wear a dress. I would have been super mad at any adult who mocked my child and asked if he wanted a purse. NOPE!

    Post # 114
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    First, I think it’s silly to say that you wouldn’t let a kid wear a costume to a casual dinner party.  Have you ever met a 3 year old who’s refused to take off her princess dress?  I have.  You’ll let them wear that dress wherever you need to.

    Second, that boy didn’t “assimilate” well because the kids were responding to the adults in the room.  Gender roles are very real, but they are a social construct.  We impose them on our children from before they are born.  And as they grow, it just gets worse and worse.

    That being said, yes, I’d let my son wear a dress to a party if he wanted to.  Because he’s fucking three years old, can like whatever he wants to like, and should grow up to be a better person than a lot of the adults in the world.  Will I let him know that some people might not understand?  Of course.  But hopefully that won’t stop him from expressing himself in whatever way feels right for him.

    Post # 115
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    FutureMrsTY:  it’s that too!  But not all about that. Sometimes you just want to entirely feel yourself.

     

    I’d get mad at you hinting that we’ve got some sort of weird fetish thing going on that’s beneath you with all that sarcasm… But really, I feel bad for you that you are so narrow in your world views that you would completely shun and ridicule something outside your norms. You’re probably missing out on a lot of awesome things because you’re too afraid to think outside the box.

    Post # 116
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    Helper bee

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    sunshineno5:  Not once did I mock children in dresses, I did however state i would not let my son wear a dress, I didnt mention sexuality as i know it doesnt have anything to do with it, i have gay cousins, I have no problem with anyones sexuality, nor is it my business. I hope she is having hot and heavy time with her man in a dress, power to her. Clearly you have nothing better to do then stick your nose in to someone elses business as i can see you have done over and over on this thread. Bigot? Again you can’t help yourself can you…. 

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    Post # 117
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Yeah, because Elsa is awesome. And because I don’t think that wearing a dress about an awesome children’s character will affect his sexuality. I believe gender and sexuality are seperate. However my hypothetical son would end up, it would be OK with me. 

    Post # 118
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m pregnant with a boy at the moment and no I would not let him wear a dress. Nor do I feel like explaining why. But if he ever asked me why he can’t wear a dress, my answer is “dresses are for girls”. If people get offended by this, oh well. 

    Post # 119
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    FutureMrsTY:  oh, come on. your comment to me was bitter, sarcastic and meant to  both put me down and distill my transgender partner’s expressions of femininity to some sort of sex joke.

    At least have the lady-balls to own what you say.

    Post # 120
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    Helper bee

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    Diamond84:  holy shit! be careful everyone is getting offended on this thread.

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