Post # 1
I want to get shopping out of the way as far as christmas goes. I don’t want to be cheap, but spending $200 per person can’t happen for his immediate family anymore. That was ok for his budget when he was single, but our budget together only allows for $100 per person, tops.
I thought that it would be nice to give everyone a monogrammed stocking from pottery barn and fill it with small and personal gifts.
For the ladies(His Mom, my mom, 2 sisters and my 4 sisters), I though about a Dooney and Bourke makeup bag and some sephora eyeshadows or a coach clutch as the ‘big ticket’, along with their favorite candies and some smaller gifts
Will I seem like the big, bad cheapo? I know they give their parents lists when they ask for them, and Fiance is used to just buying whatever is on the list- last year we went WAY over $2000 on christmas!! I want to keep it under $1000, but with so much family that looks like mission impossible
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s a cheap gift! The stocking is reusable and special, and I personally LOVE getting makeup from Ulta and Sephora for Christmas, as well as bath/body stuff. Add candy to that and you’ve got one happy Torrid!
Post # 6
If I received that, I would think it was awesome. Really depends on their expectartions though. If they are used to a more lavash gift they may be annoyed by a smaller, cheaper one.
Post # 5
I’d be thrilled! I love gifts like that!
Post # 7
Love it! Throw me something Coach in there and I am SOLD! LOL
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s cheap but would assume that anyone who wants a stocking already has one.
I like your ideas for everything inside of the stocking but maybe you can present them differently.
Post # 9
@drummerbride: this is what I’m worried about. He always picks 2 items on their list, and each item is always at least $100. The city he moved to so we could be together has a much higher cost of living. We don’t have disposable income like he used to.
I’m affraid they won’t understand that money isn’t nessesarily tight, but it would be VERY tight if we spend $200 on everyone
Post # 10
@Meowkers: I am with you that most people have stockings if they want them.
A lot of people have one form their childhood or to match a color scheme in their house. That being said you can get them smaller (less expensive gifts) and put them in a cute purse.
Another option would be to have Dh talk to his parents and just have them talk with everyone about cutting back. At some point we all grow up and there really isn’t a need to be spending that much per a person. Maybe they would be willing to talk to everyone about it.
Post # 11
To me, that seems very generous, but the fam keeps it pretty simple these days for Christmas…around $30 a piece for my parents and sis/BIL (we had a present talk once my nephew came along and my sister and BIL didn’t have as much expendable income).
I think maybe focusing on one bigger gift might have more impact than a few smaller ones in the stocking, though. 🙂
Or, maybe no stocking at all and then you’ll have a full $100 play for whatever you think the receipient might like! I know I have my one stocking and really don’t need more than one (ETA: like Meowkers said!).
Plus, don’t we all have enough *stuff*? It should never be about the amount you give…it really is the thought that should count!
Post # 12
@DomesticDiva: i hear what you guys are saying, but his whole family that like. they all give large because they can. Birthdays, holidays, everything is a big deal to everyone. if we just got them something small on their list, like Tiffany Perfume or
a juicy sweatsuit, it’s only one thing which is a problem. its customary in thei family to have more then one gift. I never ask or give them a list for myself ever, but they still give large. I personall think the lists are rude. My family normally has a $50 limit. Me and Fiance got together and decided 100 for every person is fair. We’re jut affraid we are going to look cheap. I’m trying to find a way to “posh” up our budget. The pottery barn stockings, the dooney and Bourk makeup bags.
from what’s I’ve heard, these ladies don’t do off brand, knockoff, sale or outlet. They really are nice, I just dont want to offend them
Post # 13
@MissFireFlower: Sorry, man. 🙁 Good luck.
Post # 14
I want this gift!!! haha… I think its great!
When I try to buy gifts, I look for something that I dont think that they would buy for themselves – so the little Coach clutch or a DB makeup bag would be awesome!
Post # 15
Geez, I hope no one is offended by a GIFT.
I sometimes feel like my brother and SIL expect nicer things from us since we make more and make no effort to ever return the favor. But some years I totally cheap out and go all homemade. MrsJ has a mortgage now!
Anyway – get hooked on Pinterest like me and find some cute things to make them. It doesn’t have to look cheap, but you can find ways to make bath fizzies, all kinds of decor, etc, etc, etc. My SIL is getting a lot of homemade baby stuff for Christmas. She thinks I’m going to spend a bunch of $$ on my soon to arrive neice, but it just isn’t going to happen.
One year I made all my family members gift baskets. I got huge baskets and filled them with all their favorite things. I made my Grandpa’s favorite cookies and bought him some chocolate, got some bath salts for Grandma. I actually baked a lot that year and everyone got little bags of everything, mixed in with different little gifts.
Post # 16
I would go with cheaper/more original stockings. I got my best friend a purple one (favorite color) several years ago and filled it with some trinkets she loved… she still has the stocking and stuff. :oP