(Closed) Would you like this as a christmas gift from your SIL?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I stopped making a list for Christmas when I was a teenager, lol.  I really only believe in giving Christmas gifts for the kids and maybe a small exchange with each other and our parents.  We just had this talk a short while ago and are trying to see what we can do this year.  My sisters and mom never ask for anything but I try to get them something, even if it’s not extravagant (wristlets and such from Coach outlet are great for that).  FI’s family are very strapped (and have been for quite a while) so Fiance gives them money for bills.  I think in future years we will be going the homemade route (I love Pinterest!).  I think your idea is great sans the stocking (but go for it if they dig the stockings!).

Post # 18
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think that is a wonderful gift. I really hope they would be thankful of whatever you got them.

Post # 19
1551 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel for you.  I hate when the gift-buying becomes the overwhelming concern at Christmas time.  As far as I am concenred, the gifts are really for the children…but I digress.

I agree with the Bees that are advising you to rethink the stocking.  Yes, they are adorable.  But most people alread have stockings and they tend to be very sentimental about them.  Either they are still using the one they had as a child or they and their family all have matching stockings.  Either way, they probably are already attached the the ones they have and won’t have any use for another one.  I love the idea in theory (it really is cute), but as a practical matter, you could put the part of the money that is going to a stocking to better use.

Personally, I’d prefer one $100 item as a gift than four or five $20-25 items, but that’s just me.  If his family has a tradition of multiple gifts, the ones you have picked are all very nice and I think anyone would be happy to get them.

Is it possible he could suggest a gift exchange instead?  My husband and I come from big families and buying for everyone just got insane.  Now we all just buy for the parents and the siblings exchange names…so we only buy for one sibling on each side.  We have less shopping to do (one present vs. eight) and can spend more money on that one gift, so everyone gets nicer gifts.  We also keep who we are shopping for a secret, so the recipient has to guess who the gift is from, which adds to the fun.  DH’s brother suggested this one year and he expected static because they’d always given everyone each a gift, but it turns out, everyone was relieved and this works better for everyone.  Even those who could easily afford expensive gifts for everyone likes this system better because they only have to concentrate on picking out something for one person and not racking their brains to come up with ideas for everyone.

Post # 20
1782 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Most people in my family have quite the stacks of cash, but we agreed a couple years ago on my side to have a Christmas exchange – and that the gift could not go over $40.00, it could not be a gift card, or cash. You had to provide a small list (3-4 items) to the person who drew your name and you would end up getting 1 of those items. It has been great! We still buy our parents gifts from each couple, but we are not having to buy each person a gift. So much less stressful when shopping.

Post # 21
9817 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

That is a fantastic gift!! I agree with PPs they may already have stockings, so even in a cheap canvas tote bag that they can use for shopping with their name on it would be wonderful 🙂

Post # 22
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s a great gfit for anyone…she can always use the stocking for Christmas decor if she doesn’t use it as her own stocking. My sister gave me 5 dictionairies in 5 different stockings a few years ago! The dictionaries were an inside joke of sorts, and different styles/toics, but it was an awesome gift!


Post # 23
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OP – what about having your Fiance speak to family members in advance to let them know he won’t be able to afford to spend as much as previous years?  If it comes from him, they will be less likely to hold it against you – and that way they are more prepared for Christmas when they receive your (very nice) gift.

I feel like people need to be honest about their situation and not feel pressured to buy expensive things for others.  I would hope that if he lets them know in advance, they will be more understanding (and they can even adjust their spending accordingly, if they want). 

I find sometimes in these situations, it just takes one family member to speak up and say “hey – we’re spending too much on Christmas, let’s dial it down a notch” for others to feel comfortable to admit they feel the same.  I guess you’ll never know unless you try it.  Good Luck!

Post # 24
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

It’s not a cheap gift but I’ve been using the same stocking since childhood. I would have no interest in a new one.

Post # 25
9823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s not cheap, I think $100 per person is perfectly acceptable for siblings, etc.  I wouldn’t mind the makeup, but I like that sort of thing. They might not have any use for a stocking if they already have some they like to use.

Otherwise, if you’re close to them you could always ask them.  I like to cook, so I could always think of something under $100 I would like.  That would at least be more practical to me than more makeup (makeup is the LAST thing I need, as I have so much of it already because I love it)

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