Post # 47
I agree with you on all points. I’m nervous for him that she won’t say yes because really, three months of knowing each other is nothing (they also live a few hours apart so they haven’t seen each other much in that time). I asked him if they’ve talked about getting married already and his response is “Well she knows how I feel about her.” Yeah, good luck with that :/
I have never met this girl and so I have no clue what her style is. From talking to him, it sounds like main the reason he chose it is because it’s her birthstone, not because of her personal style. I doubt he knows her tastes after such a short time.
Ok so here’s another question: Realistically, if he were to look for another ring, is it feasible it could be ready within 2 weeks? He’s proposing December 14th. I know this current ring was ordered and sent to him, but I’m not sure how long ago he bought it or if it can still be returned. If not he’s kind of stuck with it and I’ll keep my mouth shut.
Post # 48
I like the idea of a claddaugh ring, but I’m not a huge fan of emeralds. If I were given that with a different colored stone, I’d be all right with that.
Post # 49
I understand what you mean and I don’t mean to discount quick engagements. In this case I absolutely think engagement after 3 months is crazy, but for other couples maybe it makes sense. The main reason I included that info is because it’s such a short time and I’m getting the feeling he doesn’t know much about her tastes. Obviously the more time that passes the better you get to know someone.
That’s a good way to put it, thanks for the suggestion!
Post # 50
I hate the ring. Hate. The. Ring.
Unfortunately, when he asked your opinion it was probably the equivalent of us asking if these jeans make my butt look fat. An honest answer really isn’t wanted. The only exception would be if you were very dear friends with much trust between you. Perhaps your boyfriend can talk to him.
I hate to be snarky, I know it isn’t always the case, but getting engaged after 3 months increases the likelihood the engagement may not last. Upgrading this ring to a diamond with a more traditional setting could end up a big financial mistake for him. If she hates it she’ll tell him once their relationship has gelled and more trust has built. He can get her the ring of her dreams in the future .
Post # 51
Unless she’s shown you rings that she likes, you can’t really say anything cause you don’t know for sure imo
Post # 53
Personally, I love claddagh rings and maybe he already knows that his girlfriend likes them. If I was given a claddagh ring as an e-ring I would either want a diamond in the center or just plain yellow gold…I don’t really care for the emerald. Everyone’s taste is different, and I hope he knows what she likes…..I know some people hate claddagh rings, so…..you either like them or you don’t.
Like others have mentioned…I wouldn’t say anything to him…maybe you could just ask him if he’s asked her before what she likes…see how he decided on that particular ring.
Congrats to him….I hope she loves it!
Post # 54
I would laugh, and tell him to return it. Even the promise ring I had when I was like twelve was fancier than that. Not everyone needs fact or expensive, but I do.
I would also run the eff away from anyone that tried to propose after three months, so he wouldn’t be getting anywhere with me.
Post # 55
I thought claddagh rings were made for people of Irish heritage… If I am right, the green stone makes it look even more fit to an Irish theme. I could be wrong though. I hope she likes it.
Post # 56
I really like it & I love the green stone.
Post # 57
I would not like this as an engagement ring.
Post # 58
@SomedaymrsWDS: “Unfortunately, when he asked your opinion it was probably the equivalent of us asking if these jeans make my butt look fat. An honest answer really isn’t wanted.”
I don’t particularly like the ring and TBH; I would be more concerned about the length of their relationship and her reaction to his proposal, then the ring.
Post # 59
One of my friends wants one for her engagement ring, and another one of my friends already has one and just wants to switch it to the other hand! Until they told me that I NEVER would have guessed! It’s hard to say what people would like.
Post # 60
To @spiffanee: It is a Claddagh Ring… which is an Irish Ring that has a long tradition when it comes to representing deep emotions… FRIENDSHIP (Hands) – LOVE (Heart) – and LOYALTY (Crown)
Wikipedia – Claddagh Ring = http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claddagh_ring
Depending on how it is worn on one’s hand signifies the Wearer’s status:
- RH Point to the Fingertips = Available
- RH Point to the Wrist = Taken
- LH Point to the Fingertips = Engaged
- LH Point to the Wrist = Married
Over the years, I’ve know people who have worn them to represent any / all of the above.
And I certainly have seen them used as everything from a Ring of Friendship (from a same sex friend) thru to a Promise Ring, ERing or WBand.
Not to everyone’s taste perhaps for an ERing or WBand… but ALL that truly matters here is what the Girl getting it will think and whether she will appreciate / LOVE The Ring as an ERing. Nothing else truly matters.
Hope this helps,
Post # 61
I VOTED – YES I like this ring
Because I do. I like the look, I like the history, I like the sentiment.
BUT after just 3 months of Dating, and it being Long Distance, I would be hopeful that the symbolism of the ring would be more “Promise” than Engagement in this particular situation
(And for the record, there is nothing wrong with a Promise Ring no matters one’s age… PRings get a bad wrap… BUT I bet a lot of Ladies on the Waiting Boards would be happy with one if they knew it meant an Engagement Ring was being saved up for and in the works to come shortly. Saying YES I want to marry you in the future with a Ring… doesn’t have to be an ERing)