Post # 1
So, one of my good friends is getting married in November and her Maid/Matron of Honor is organizing a surprise for their first dance. A lot of the people in this group of friends are musically inclined and so we’re planning on singing their first dance. They’re having an ipod reception essentially and one of the girls involved has been put in charge of keeping an eye on the music and will be the one sneaking an instrumental recording in place of the original.
We’ve all been in various choirs throughout the years and are perfectly capable of harmonizing and staying in tune. I just feel a little odd about it for some reason. Like, it’s their time in the spotlight and I don’t want to take away any of the attention. Or if something goes wrong regardless of our preparation, there’s always a chance of human error and I’d hate to mess up their first dance. We know they aren’t attached to the particular artist or rendition, so being different from the original wouldn’t be an issue. I just don’t know. Would you enjoy this surprise? Would you be upset if your friends, talented though they are, did this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@HonoraryNerd: i LOVE the idea of this!!! – i am a MAJOR fan of including friends and family in our day – so to have a group sing our 1st dance song…. amazing!!! your bride to be friend is a very lucky girl to have a group of such talented and thoughtful friends!!!
Post # 5
Brilliant idea, really sweet.
Post # 6
Thanks guys. I like polls, so I made a poll.
Post # 8
I don’t think I’d like it. I am not a person that seeks attention and I am pretty self-sufficient so I don’t usually bother people for things, but on this one day, it would be nice if it was just OUR day. OUR meaning my fiance and me.
Then again, I think I would be okay with it if it wasn’t during the first dance. That just seems really crappy to me for some reason. Like how presumptuous of you to think that I would want you to interrupt such an important thing with YOUR singing. Not saying that to you, original poster. Just how I would feel if that happened to me 🙂 Sorry if that sounded snarky!
Just my two cents.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t do it. Some things to consider: the first dance is something couples spend time planning, picking out the right song, some even take dance lessons. For them to go up and dance what they have been planning, to now all of a sudden have people singing might throw them off guard.
Also, when people sing live other people watch them. People are supposed to be watching the couple during the first dance, so your friend may not like that moment being taken away from her.
Post # 10
if you want to do a surprise song for the bride and groom, that’s great!! But NOT their first dance!! You don’t feel right about it because its not right.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA
@HonoraryNerd: I think it sounds really sweet! And if anything should go terribly wrong, you’ll always have the iPod as a back up plan.
Post # 12
@pixiecat: I’d mentioned earlier in the planning stages about people watching us as opposed to them. Maid/Matron of Honor equated it to a wedding with a live band playing the song. I do know that aren’t taking lessons or anything super special for their dance, also
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I think its a really sweet gesture, but I agree that maybe it would take a lot of attention off of them. It isnt like watching a live band, because these people there will know you. It really depends on the couple, though. You know them better than us, but if you think they would love it, do it!
Post # 14
@HonoraryNerd: I don’t think it is the same as a live band, because you expect the band to be singing so you watch the first dance but you don’t expect the bridesmaids to be singing so you watch them. Plus this couple is not having a live band, so that argument doesn’t really mean anything.
The wedding I went to last month, the bride’s sister sings and she sang during their sand ceremony and she sang with some other bridesmaids during her toast. I don’t know if it was nerves or what, but both times her singing was really bad. So that is what I remember from the wedding, the bad singing. You don’t want the memory of your friend’s first dance to be over taken by potentially bad singing.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum
I wouldn’t like this. The first dance is the choice of the bride and groom.
Post # 16
Maybe you can do it for a different song? I personally would think it was awesome if my friends did this for my first dance but I can definitely see someone getting upset about it.
ETA: I think the poll options make it difficult to vote. I would love it if my friends did this but I wouldn’t recommend doing it.