(Closed) Would you live really close to your in laws?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

Depends on how much you like them and whether or not they’re a bit invasive or bossy.  I’d live near mine but I don’t like their state.  Husband would actually be thrilled if I were willing to move there.  But it’s nothing to do with them – I love them!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I wouldn’t mind living near FIs stepdad and his wife. They actually live next door to FIs grandma and it’s great! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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rayyajohny:  It would be great for having kids if they like to babysit, otherwise a buffer is best for me.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It really depends on your and your DHs relationship with them, I’m very introverted and wouldnt cope with having people just drop by, but I have friends who do and it works wonderfully for them

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Agree with other PPs, it depends on your and DHs relationship with them. We live within 20 minutes drive of all our parents – in fact, my dad and step mother live 5 doors down from my FMIL! We like that our parents aren’t too far away (if an emergency or whatever were to arise) but that they aren’t so close that we run into each other in the street lol.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We live on property they own. Actually, it is the lot right above theirs on the hill. A nice little forested trail connects our house to theirs. We call it the gnome trail. I love his parents, so I don’t mind. They mind their business and don’t pop in unexpectedly, but it is nice to have them right down the hill when they invite us for dinner and such. Fiance is often away for field work for a month or two at a time a few times a year, so it is nice having them close when I’m here alone. If I yell they would hear me, which is reassuring! 

I think it really depends on how they are with boundaries. If they expect to be able to just stop on by whenever I would not be stoked. But everyone is different.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

How close is really close? We are newlyweds without kids, and our parents are (knock on wood) still healthy. I like having the freedom to do my own thing. Both of us are used to being pretty independent though we still love our parents. When we start having kids and when our parents become more frail, it will be very beneficial to be closer in geographic distance. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

NO! They are awesome and we have a great relationship but I feel like if we lived too close and interacted to much our relationship will be riddled with mundane things and medling and that would be destructive.. That being said I wouldn’t want to live too close to my family either cause they are inlaws to him and also want to avoid medling…. but I am happy me and my family live in the same city. I think it would be nice if his family lived in Toronto as well not 600km away near Montreal… i think for the kids (when we have them) it would be great! But I would never want to live in very close proximiry in order to avoid a “Everybody Loves Raymond” situation. Oh the horror…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would if I could, but then again, I adore my inlaws.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Depends on your relationship and how close they live!

My in laws live about fifteen minutes away. It’s not too bad, it means we’ve always got someone to feed the cats and water plants when we’re away. We do have to have dinner with them once a week.

Mother-In-Law is quite overbearing but it’s okay at the moment. I’m waiting to see if it changes when we have our baby!! I do not want unannounced visits!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Agree with those who said it depends on how much you like them! my in laws have bought a house is the street behind us – personally I am thrilled because I adore them but it wouldn’t be for everyone 🙂 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I live next door to my father-in-law and it’s fine. As long as your in-laws can respect boundaries it’s actually quite nice. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We live 4 minutes from my parents and 5 minutes from my in laws. It’s amazing! But I love both sets of parents. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it depends on your relationship with them, and their ability to respect boundaries. 

We bought a house close to my Father-In-Law.  We can walk to his house if we wanted to, it’s close enough that you can see his house from ours.

I love my Father-In-Law, but when we moved in, we set boundaries with him and everything has been great.  It’s actually really nice being so close to him, because we go out of town a lot and we know he’ll keep an eye on our house and take care of our cats if needed.  DH is also really close with his dad, so it’s nice that they can visit each other easily.  A bonus is that sometimes he randomly “feels like cooking/grilling” and will ask us to come eat all the food he cooked…and he also takes care of cutting our grass. lol  

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