- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
It’s a bit long….my apologies.
My fiancé and I live in a very nice, “luxury” apartment, and it is priced accordingly. Our lease is up at the end of September and we have decided that we would rather move somewhere much cheaper to save money.
Now I am faced with a bit of a dilemma. My sister-in-law lives in the same town as us (my brother’s job has him out of the country this year), and they own a house, but their jobs will have them moving at the beginning of next year. When we mentioned wanting to move, my sister in law said we should just live there with them. It makes total sense in some ways since it won’t be for that long and after that we can rent the house from them, but in other ways I am dreading the idea of it.
An important thing to note is that I am a total introvert, I feel like I need my alone time to survive! My youngest sister (who I love of course but haven’t had to live with in years) lives with my sister-in-law, so if we moved in with them it would be 4 sometimes 5 adults (when my brother visits town on his breaks, let alone if they have guests visiting!), my 1.5 yr old nephew, their large dog, and our two cats. They have a 3-bedroom, 1,700 square foot home. A master bedroom, the nursery, and the guest bedroom which is my little sister’s room right now.
I have no idea what the arrangements would be if we moved in with them. My sister-in-law is almost too accommodating and would probably volunteer to sleep in the nursery and give us the master. That would be awful to do that to her! We wouldn’t mind sleeping in the living room, but I feel like we wouldn’t have any space of our own which might drive this introvert crazy.
Another downside is that my car lease is up in the spring (this would be AFTER my family moves out of town, so at least I’ll have my own car if I need to escape the craziness…), and in order to save more money I was planning on just getting a bus pass to get to work, and only carpooling with my fiancé when the weather is bad. But my family’s house is miles and miles from any bus stops, so we would have to carpool every day until we got a second car, and our jobs are pretty far apart from each other.
Other than that it does make a lot of sense. My brother and sister-in law were going to try to find renters anyway, and who better than family? They would probably just make us pay the equivalent of their mortgage payment which is a great deal for us- we could only really get a 1 bedroom apt with that. And at the rate we are saving it might be years before we can afford a house of that size on our own.
We all get along for the most part and hang out pretty often, I just get a panic attack imagining us all trying to live together!! My fiancé is the opposite of me – he’s a total extrovert and would jump all over the chance to be around people 24/7. Although I feel like we can both be a bit of a handful for those exact reasons, lol.
So, would you do it?? Or any advice?