(Closed) Would You Loan A Friend $$$ If They Asked?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would You Loan $$$ To A Friend?
    Yes- a friend is a friend : (12 votes)
    10 %
    No- I am not a bank & think it muddies the friendship : (46 votes)
    38 %
    I would-- but I would gift it and not expect to be paid back : (22 votes)
    18 %
    Maybe-- in EXTREME circumstances, yes.... just to "spot" someone, probably not : (42 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    it depends. If it’s a dollar or less, of course without hesitation, and I wouldn’t even expect it back. Large sums of money … no, and I know that if I did, I would expect to never see the money again.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would only give money if I didn’t expect to get it back but I probably wouldn’t give large amounts of money because even that as a gift would hurt a friendship.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    It would definitely depend on who was asking and how large of a sum.

    If it was someone that I was close to and knew well, and if they didn’t need a large sum, then sure.

    Post # 6
    Member
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Depends on the friend.

    Some – yes of course if could, without a doubt….others …….not a chance.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    After what I’ve learned, no probably not. I would give someone $10 or less very infrequently but not expect it back at all. Especially like $1 or if they need a quarter to not have to break a dollar at lunch or whatever. That is no biggie and I don’t expect it back, though most of my friends will actually go out of their way to give a dollar back. We’re just like that.

    I have been in a situation where I loaned a more substantial amount (around $300) and the friendship ended and I never got that money back. Not something I care to repeat.

    I also hate loaning THINGS because people either forget or lose things, like books. I love my books! My very best friend and I loan books back and forth and it works, but I have another friend that when she asks to borrow a book I have to think about it! haha.

    Post # 8
    Member
    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Depends on the friend and on the amount. But in general I respect my friends and think very highly of them, and I can’t imagine them asking for help unless they were truly desperate, so yes, I probably would. People say it casts a shadow over the relationship, but wouldn’t refusing to help them in a time of need also forever alter the friendship?

    Post # 9
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    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would only lend money to a friend if I thought it was a reasonable amount, and I wouldn’t expect to get it back. It would also have to be for a good cause, not just because they wanted to go out and buy themselves something nice.

    Post # 10
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    In almost all cases, no because I feel like it virtually always hurts the relationship/makes things awkward. However, in the case of very extreme circumstances, I would probably do it for a very close friend, but I wouldn’t count on getting it back even if that was the arrangement. If I wasn’t comfortable with that money being gone forever, I wouldn’t be comfortable lending it. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Assuming we are talking about a significant amount of money then it would be a big maybe. It depends on the friend, what they needed it for, and wether I thought it would get paid back. I don’t have a lot of money myself so I don’t have a lot to be giving away. I help my freinds on big things in other ways. When a friend of mine thought she was going to lose her house I let her know I was cool with her crashing at my place rent-free. Or whenever my roomate was late with the rent check, sometimes by two weeks, I never said anything. 

    For little things I don’t really care about the money and I don’t expect to be paid back.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I would, depending how much it was. But I would never mention it again and not be expected to be paid back. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It absolutely depends on the situation and the amount. Anytime I’ve ever loaned a friend money, I either never see it again, or it takes several months before I’m paid back.

    Post # 14
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    9482 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No.  Causes way too many problems.

    Post # 15
    Member
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I loaned my “best friend” $1500.00 and she was getting money in a week from a settlement.

    Long story short, We went to a halloween party at a friends, she showed up with her bf got into a huge fight, called me and our friend names ruined the whole night.. She said some mean things we got into a physical fight, she refused to pay me back.

    So end to that 12 year relationship and haven’t spoken to her or got my money back and that was almost 3 years ago.

    I will never trust or loan to a “good friend” ever again!

    Post # 16
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    No I would not. I think if you choose to, then don’t expect to be paid back (more so if it’s family).

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