Post # 1
I could use your help here. Backstory is I fell in love with a dress way outside my budget, gave up on it, then recently found it on preloved online, for $2000 including veil, hairpiece and hoops, which puts it right on my $2000 budget for dress and veil.
Problem is, dress online is a bridal size 10. I’m a bridal size 14 at the moment. I currently weigh 86kg or 190lbs, I am 172cm or 5’7 tall. I am planning to lose 15kg or 33lbs by the wedding. I have lost this weight before but put it all back on again, so I know I can do it. If I lost around 15kg I am pretty sure the size 10 would fit.
What would you do bees? would you risk it? The dress has a corset back, so there is a bit of leeway, but I’m still in 2 minds.
Here is the dress on the model:
Here is a size 10 dress on a real bride:
Post # 3
@Roux: Do you have the measurements of the dress?
I’d worry about issues with how big the bridal size 10 really is. Because bridal sizes tend to be smaller than street sizes.
Also, sometimes you run into issues where even if you lose the weight the dress still won’t fit (i.e. what if your ribcage is too big for the size 10? You can’t make that smaller by losing weight).
I’d worry 1 about not being able to lose all the weight or 2 losing the weight and still not having it fit.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: Measurements, thats a good idea. Obviously a lot more accurate than weight. I know the the size 14 in this dress would fit well, the size 12 I’d need to lose about 3 inches around the ribcage, work off the back fat, lol. I’ll see if I can find a size 10 to try on in a salon and see how small it is.
Post # 5
@Roux: you’ve done it before, and you have well over a year to lose the weight…i’d say go for it! just be careful to keep up on it once you have lost the weight.
i’m also planning on losing about 35lb before my october wedding next year, and i plan on losing at least 20lb of it before the new year. i’m about an inch taller than you, and about 175lb at the moment…goal weight 140. should put me around a size 8 in theory, but in practice i’m pretty sure my frame/bone structure is wider than that, and i’ll be a size 10. good luck to you.
Post # 6
I think it’s a little too risky. For example, I’ve lost 16 pounds (and I’m very short and already close to my goal weight), but my measurements haven’t changed at all! I’m still the exact same size. I would hate to have you lose the weight and still not be able to fit into the dress. But, I hope it works out for you!
Post # 7
That dress is amazing! You have a lot of time to lose the weight so I’d say if you put your mind to it to fit in this dress then you can do it… I fail at dieting because I give up a lot but when I have a goal or something I know I need to fit in… it helps a lot. I’d go for it…
Post # 8
I think its a little risky. How long ago did you lose the weight? Metabolisma change over the years. It used to be really easy for me to lose weight. Not so much anymore.
I would email the lady and see what the measurements are, and then figure it out from there, On a good note, you have alot of time to lose the weight.
Post # 9
I chose no im happy with my current weight. I see so many brides kill themselves over the perfect weight and size of dress. When they become engaged its like all reality seems to go out the window for that fact that weddings are hyped up so much by celeberties and royal weddings.
Why would you want to stress yourself 10x over just to be a certain size and not look like who you really is?
Remember your man asked you to marry him…he loves you and they way you look so dont go stressing over losing the weight for just a number on the dress…..I should know….Im a street 22 and I had to order a dress in a 26 because of my bust size…and that dress makes my girls look AMAZING! I know he is gonna love it…because he fell in love with me and my body size! (oh plus I was 50lb smaller when I met him and he doesnt care I put it on….he actually tells me that I havent put on weight….just to be the sweetheart he is!)
I am all for losing weight to be healthier. I myself should lose the 50lb I put on. I just mean that you need to be safe about it. Difinently talk to your health care provider and make sure you do it the right way. Dont do the crash diet where you only drink water and have 3 crackers. Be healthy about it! Losing weight while you are stressing out over how much you need to lose for a dream dress is damaging to your emotions as well as your body.
Plus have a strong support system!
Good Luck !
Post # 10
I am in the same boat, I found my dream 6k dress for 1.5K (and it is a rare dress, I’ve only seen one other used one) but it’s a RTW size 6 and I am a size 16…now, realistically, the measurement difference are that the dress is 5 inches too small in the bust and waist. I figure I would need to lose about 25lbs for a wedding in 2 years. I am about 50lbs overweight, so 25lbs would be a good idea to lose even if it wasn’t for a dress.
Lemme know what conclusion you reach and I am sending good vibes!
Post # 11
I would’t buy it if it didn’t fit. As someone who as struggled with weight all their lives and who is trying to lose weight, not for the wedding, but so I will healthy when we want to start a family, the body is a tricky thing, It has taken me over a year to lose 45lbs, or so. I am trying to lose 20lbs more, but it is becoming harder and harder to do so. I think that you need to keep looking. You have a long time.
Also you never know how your body will respond to weight loss and where the inches will come from. I have mostly lost my weight in my chest and torso area, where as I still have my hips. I have only dropped one and a half sizes with losing as much weight as I did, so I would not risk anything, especially 2k.
Post # 12
@Rubies: i don’t mean to be a negative nancy, but i think the difference between a size 6 and a size 16 is a lot more than 25 pounds, speaking as a girl who’s lost just over eighty pounds and gone from a 20/22 to currently a size 14/16. but two years is plenty plenty plenty of time to take off a substantial amount of weight with a healthy diet and exercise.
@Roux: i am totally in the same boat as you! i have been stalking this sottero dress for some time now, and according to her size chart, i’m right between a 14 & 16, but i happened to stumble upon ebay today and find it for $100, i think regularly $1200. i figure if i’ve lost 80 lbs over the last 7 months, i’ll totally lose at least 50 more before next may and fit comfortably in the dress by next may. a light at the end of the tunnel (a beautiful dream dress) is the best incentive you can have for staying on track with healthy diet and exercise. i say go for it. but maybe because i’m only trying to vaidate my own decision 🙂
Post # 13
So the good news for most wedding gowns is that there is usually at least 1-2 inches of fabric to have the seams let out. Depending on the detailing on the bodice, that could really help you (though, it is expensive. I paid $150 for this on my gown). SInce you would only have to worry about the bust/waist fitting on a ballgown-type dress, this is more feasible for you.
For myself, though, I would not lose weight for a specific dress. There are just too many amaxing ones out there! I had to let mine out because I had gained about 8 pounds leading up to the wedding and just wasn’t willing to kill myself to take it off. Life is too short!
Post # 14
Roux, if you wanted to lose the weight already, I say go for it since it will probably help as it will give you incentive.
But i agree with everyone who said to ask for measurements first.
I’m a size 3 or 4 in street sized clothing and although she looks taller, the real bride looks about the same as me, give or take.
Good luck and i love the dress too, it’s very pretty 🙂
Post # 15
I want to, and will, lose weight for the wedding. But I would never do it for a dress. The weightloss is all for me..
Post # 16
@smitten_and_giddy: 25lbs is on me. The measurements of the dress do NOT match a 6 (a size 6 should be a 26 inch waist, not 29) I am about five feet tall, every 5 lbs is about an inch off my waist and 1.5 off my bust. My current measurements are a 38 bust and a 34 waist.
If I lose the full 50 I will be at at about a 25 inch waist. Given how short I am, that is where I SHOULD be. For a taller person (or someone with a smaller frame) that might be different.
EDIT: The bust is actually 34, so I would probably need the bust adjusted if I get small enough in the waist.
Like I said, I don’t know what to do yet. Most people have just been telling me I will never be small enough for any wedding dress.