Post # 1
I am curious if you would make a request of your guests- we are having a 1920’s Speakeasy wedding and I think it would be awesome if everyone could dress the part, whether it be just adding a headband or going all out. I want it to feel like they stepped back into time. Would you ask your guests to dress up, not just the bridal party?
Post # 3
No, I wouldn’t. I don’t want my guests to feel like they have to be uncomfortable to buy something new just to come to my wedding. I also dont want them to feel like a prop. Maybe you can phrase it more as a suggestion than a mandatory dress code? Or just say dress code: cocktail attire and leave it at that. Maybe you could have some fun props and photo booth available to get people more into the spirit?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t ask them to but I’d let everyone know they are free to do so if they want to. But don’t require it or phrase it in any way that would make it sound like a requirement.
Post # 5
Yeah I would. you could word it in some cute way on the invite; like “come step back in time with us in your best 20’s garb and celebrate our wedding” something like that.
Post # 6
If I wanted people to participate in the theme which would be awesome I could provide headbands or props for them to use. I think it’s rude to ask more of them by asking them to dress up and pay to match the theme and if they are the only people who don’t do it they look like the odd man out.
Post # 7
Well, everyone we invited, we were super close with so I wouldnt have felt weird being like, “Hey! We are doing a theme!” Besides, 20s would be super easy to accommodate as a guest! 😀
Post # 8
It’s much the same as if you let people know a color scheme; they can play along – or not – as they choose.
As long as it’s not a demand, it’s perfectly OK in my mind. 🙂
Post # 9
I went to a carnival-themed wedding once where the bride and groom encouraged people to dress up, but didn’t enforce it. It was nice that it wasn’t enforced because it was in Europe (I’m from Canada) and it was at the beginning of our three-week trip, so it would have been a bit of a hassle packing around a wacky carnival style dress for the rest of the time. So I think giving the option is a nice idea, but not strictly enforcing it. I would have loved to dress up if it was local, but some people might not feel comfortable feeling like they’re in “costume”.
Post # 10
Fiance and I have the same theme and it’s super not-cool to require guests to dress up. However, we made a note in our FAQs on our wedding website:
Do we have to dress in costume?
We would love if our guests had fun with our theme – including dressing the part! However, guests are by no means expected to dress in costume for our wedding. If you do choose to participate, ladies can find appropriate clothing at Unique-Vintage.com, or Gastbylady at Etsy. For a more modern art deco attire, designer Pissaro Nights has some wonderful dresses.
We will also be providing props – my bridesmaids and I are making elastic/sequin headbands with feathers.
Post # 11
Thank you everyone! All great suggestions! I was thinking about maybe just adding something on the invites that says “Feel free to dress in your 1920’s best”… I feel like that may subtly suggest it with out requiring it
Post # 12
No way. I don’t want to burden my guests – most people would have to purchase something new. Also I know lots of people don’t enjoy dressing up in costume.
Post # 13
What if you provided favors that resemembled 1920’s accessories for photos?
Post # 15
I would not ask them to dress a certain way, but I would make costume pieces or props available to guests to make them feel part of the “theme”.