(Closed) Would you Make a request of the guests? (Poll)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you ask your guests to dress up?

    Heck ya! Get into the theme!

    Nope, I'm just happy they want to celebrate with us.

  • Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    Danilynne:  No, no, no, no, no.

    Post # 32
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    Danilynne:  Sounds like fun to me! I’d love to dress up that way! But, some people might not, so just as long as guests know they don’t HAVE to. 🙂 Maybe it can be spread word of mouth? 

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    Sugar bee

     

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    Danilynne:  My apologies If I have offended you.  You’ve put the question out there so I have offerred my view. I didn’t mean to suggest that your feelings for each other were trivialised in any way by your theme but I do find the trend of weddings now evolving into theme parties an interesting one.  Weddings where once primarly about the couples’s declaration of love but now props and costumes have gotten in on the act.

      By all means have the wedding party of your dreams. If YOU feel comfortable abut asking people to dress in costumes then go for it! It sounds fun and I am sure it will be a hoot.

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    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    skunktastic:  OMG, if Fiance wasn’t as adorable and perfect as he is, I’d wanna marry an Indian man so I can have a huge Indian wedding. I’d look DAMN GOOD in a formal sari!!! (I hope my cultural appropriation isn’t completely insulting, but you get me, lol)

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    observer:  First off, all parties have a theme. Some are just more elaborate than others.

    Secondly, the unique ways people want to celebrate and express the “formalization of their love” is completely their personal decision and it should be respected by people who are merely outsiders to the relationship.

    Lastly, the ceremony is separate from the reception. The reception is in fact a party. I see nothing wrong with the reception having a fun theme. If your guests are in fact fun…

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee

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    maymrswinks: Not all parties have themes.  I entertain regularly and my parties almost never have a theme. 

    As for this: “I see nothing wrong with the reception having a fun theme. If your guests are in fact fun…”

    I do hope that you’re not meaning this to say that people who don’t dress up or act otherwise interested in party themes can’t be fun, because that’s a very unjust thing to think, in my opinion. 

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee

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    Danilynne:  As other Bees have said, I think it all depends on the family. My family would love something like this and I wouldn’t hesitate – my fiance’s family is a little more uptight and probably wouldn’t like it. I think you know your audience best OP. And I love the idea of 20’s themed props!

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    MarriedToMyWork: From Webster’s dictionary:

    theme:

    (noun)

    a unifying or dominant idea, motif, etc. 

    (verb)
    1. to give a particular setting or ambience to (a venue or activity).

    Every party has a theme. Some are romantic, some are classic, some are casual, some are 1920s flapper. But every party creates some sort of mood. The best parties execute a cohesive vision.

    I wasn’t suggesting that people who are not interested in fun themed weddings are not fun. I was, however, suggesting that the type of people who judge other peoples’ wedding themes do not sound like fun to party with. 

    Post # 41
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I don’t think it’s too much of an imposition to suggest 1920s attire. There is so much variation in that – people could go all out and rent a vintage flapper dress, or you could get women who just wear a regular cocktail dress but style their hair in a bob or wear a headband or something. Or this is how it has gone down at all the 1920s theme birthday/engagement parties I’ve been to. 

    I would find it more of a problem if you were demanding all guests wear pink or something. That is rude, a theme is not. And don’t listen to anybody who tries to make out like having a theme devalues your commitment somehow – it does not!

    Post # 42
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    Newbee

    I think what you mean to ask is, “would you mind being asked to dress up.”  I feel like a lot of people are saying they wouldn’t ask, and personally, I wouldn’t either just because it’s not the style of my wedding. But I wouldn’t mind being asked!

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We are having a James Bond theme wedding and people have been asking us what to wear, and we just reply with “Your best James Bond inspired outfit.” And then we let them know that it’s black tie invited and that whatever they pick will probably be just fine. Some of our guests are really getting in to it and have looked up Bond Girl outfits and tried to replicate something. Fiance is wearing a blue and black tux like the one that was worn in Skyfall, since he is the James Bond for the evening. 

    Post # 44
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I would include the theme in the invitations and let them know that way. Maybe not so much on asking them but encouraging them through the invitation is as far as I would go. Sounds like a fun wedding though!

    Post # 45
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    Blushing bee

    I would! But don’t be upset if not everyone does. It’s a cute idea but everyone might not be down, and I think that’s ok to. 

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