(Closed) Would you make your bridesmaids wear something unflattering if they were pretty?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
7440 posts
Busy Beekeeper

No, I would want my girls to feel beautiful and comfortable in what they are wearing. I thought unflattering bridesmaids were a thing of the past.

Post # 3
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Dogmummy:  Why? I mean that is just ridiculous. It’s your wedding, no one (except maybe one or two men with nothing better to do) are going to pay attention to anyone but the bride.

Frankly my cousin, who is 6 years younger has a pretty hot body. She works out about 3 hours a day and has maintiained her big boobs very well (you know, surgery & exercise for no drooping after two kids) but I don’t care. Everyone can look at her the day we I get married, except my FH, and I could not care less. 

Post # 4
404 posts
Helper bee

haha I don’t think dressing up pretty bridesmaids in bad clothes will make the bride look any prettier, just like she has terrible taste! Brides be crazy…

Post # 5
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Nope! And I’d step down from any wedding where the bride tried it. I was considering blush or champagne bridesmaids dresses and my bridesmaids felt that those colors washed them out, so we are going for a deep, saturated pink instead. They were all willing to wear what I wanted but they are the people I love most, that’s why they are my bridesmaids, so why would I want them to ever feel anything less than beautiful and confidant. 

Post # 6
2921 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Maid/Matron of Honor is supermodel beautiful, no lie. She makes Beyonce look plain. I picked her a dress that had jaws dropping to the floor. My godmother (who isn’t a gusher) gushed about how stunning she was. Could. Not. Give. A. Shit. I was getting married, not competing in a beauty pageant. Plus, I’ve known her long enough to get used to the head turns. And I would not want to be a bitch to the friend who made my wedding cake, put together my bouquets and did my hair. . .that would just be a dick move.

Post # 7
3273 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I maybe joked about it, but ultimately I want them to be comfortable (and not be an eyesore in my pictures )

Post # 8
2704 posts
Sugar bee

No way and both my BMs are better looking than me. 

Post # 9
517 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t, but I can understand how a bride who grew up with friends or sisters who were always the “pretty ones” and always felt like they were competing with them for attention would want to.

I have felt that way many times (I’m not engaged, but the girls I would choose are all very beautiful and four of them are about 1/2 my size) but I love those girls too much to try and make myself feel better at their expense.

I can definatly see why someone would be tempted to though.

Post # 10
140 posts
Blushing bee

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Dogmummy:  OMW this is the funniest thread title ever!! I’m having fun imagining all kinds of awful get-ups on pretty girls, standing beside a Mrs. Twit-type bride with an evil smile! lol!

Post # 11
30398 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Never. Those women are my  friends and they are going to be in my wedding pictures.

Post # 12
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Lol no way… both my bridesmaids are taller thinner prettier girls than me but there’s no way i would make them wear something that would make them uncomfortable. imagine how aweful my photos would be 

Post # 13
683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My BMs were all pretty and I let them pick out their own dresses and shoes, though I wish that I had made my SIL wear an ugly dress, not to look better than her but bc she still gave me a hard time even though I let her pick out her dress and shoes lol. 

Post # 14
49 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

I feel like my friend did this to me. Another bridesmaid (who’s drop dead gorgeous) and I have long dark hair that we ALWAYS wear down. I feel like she knew my friend and I are self conscious with our hair up. For her wedding she asked that we wear our hair up because she was wearing her hair down and didn’t want it to look the same as us. We we’re not happy with this, but I was planning on obliging as to not stress her out/make her feel better. Turned out she never mentioned anything to the other 2 bridesmaids about how to wear their hair (both blondes with similar hair length to hers), because when I showed up at the venue to get ready everyone was rockin simiilar hair!

After the wedding, she posted wedding pictures to facebook, but there were absolutely no pictures containing any bridal party members. I thought it was very weird and hope it’s not because she is sad comparing herself to other girls. She’s a beautiful girl, but “Comparison is the theif of joy”..

Post # 15
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Costa Rica

ummm… No… I’m not having any bridesmaids tho. Just my sis matron of honor.

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