(Closed) Would you married someone who's been divorced?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you married someone who's been divorced?
    Heck yes! I am! : (139 votes)
    25 %
    Yes, but I'm not. : (252 votes)
    46 %
    No way, I don't want to be the 2nd wife. : (123 votes)
    22 %
    Other (please comment) : (38 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    5958 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Nooopppee!  That would eliminate a whole lot of marvelous people from the dating pool! 

    Post # 4
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    14486 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think I can say that, cause I’m not in that situation.  If every put in a situation where I fall for a divorced man, I dont know that I’d say that. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I certainly wouldn’t be opposed to it.  But why they got divorced and what he’s learned / how he’s changed from it would be a factor.

    But I’m married to Darling Husband (who isn’t divorced) and not planning on going anywhere so this is kind of a non-issue for me.

    Post # 6
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    1210 posts
    Bumble bee

    I personally would not. Not to say there are plenty of wonderful divorced men (and women) out there, but I don’t believe in divorce, so it would be a conflict of our values.

    DISCLAIMER: I am NOT saying divorced people are bad or made wrong decisions or whathaveyou. Its just my personal belief. Please don’t take this the wrong way.

    Post # 7
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    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Yes my husband is divorced he was with his ex for 8yrs and within 3months of being married she had an affair with the man she is now currently married too and they had a baby. He was devistated so 3yrs after his divorce we met, we have been together for four years and married for almost 2 months

    Post # 8
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m divorced.  Obviously Fiance didn’t feel that way.

    Post # 9
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    2903 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It depends on WHY they got divorced. If the guy cheated then heck-to-the- No! I used to say that I would never go a for a divorced guy but I personally have been through one now…..and I can honestly say that I was the innocent party on that one. I really thought that no decent man would give me a chance after going though it because I would be “tainted” in some way. But I was not the one who strayed and I kept to my vows… So it would be unfair for me to look at a divorced guy as undateable.

    Post # 10
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    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We are both divorced, so it would be rather hypocritical of me to say I wouldn’t marry a divorced man.  One of our friends recently married a girl (or maybe it was undue pressure from her minister) who had a huge problem with the fact that he had been divorced.  Now she is pregnant and demanding that he get rid of anything that was purchased during his previous marriage.  Including the house, cars, hot tub, etc.  I would say if you have that much of a problem with it then don’t do it.

    Post # 11
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My husband is divorced. There’s nothing wrong with a person being divorced, not everything works out the way they would like it too. You really hvae to take that on a case by case basis. We’ll see what your friend says when she meets the man of your dreams and he’s… GASP divorced! LOL

    a LOT of our friends are divorced and now remarried (we are in our 30s)

    Post # 12
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    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i guess it depends on why they got a divorce ?

    Post # 13
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    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @JessMorgan777:  This exactly word for word.

    Post # 14
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    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    It would depend on why they got divorced, but the word “divorce” wouldn’t automatically scare me off.

    Post # 15
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    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I met my Fiance at age 20, so I hadn’t run into any 20-25 year old men who were divorced.  I never had to make that decision.  However, I would probably be put off if I had gone out with a guy and found out he was divorced.  It’s a knee-jerk reaction, I know.  Like I said, maybe it would be different if I were 28, single, and most of the 28-35 year old guys out there were divorcees, but I want to live my life with someone who has similar life experiences.  I wouldn’t want to go through with a big, lavish wedding if he had already done it before.  You get the idea.

    Post # 16
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am doing just that in 22 days! Wish me luck ;-P

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