(Closed) Would you marry a guy who told you THIS:

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If you were the girl, Would you marry a guy who told you this?
    Yes : (277 votes)
    53 %
    No : (249 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I may be in the minority here, but guys are very visible creatures. He says he’ll probably watch porn sometimes but he promises to never cheat. I don’t really see an issue.

     

    As for the porn “addiction”, is that something he was diagnosed with or is his fiance saying it is an addiction by how often she thinks he watched it?

    Post # 4
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    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It’s kind of untactful for him to say it like that (not very romantic maybe?) but yeah that’s brutal honesty i guess? 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @poppygirl16:  Well at least he’s really, really honest.  I think that would be better than lying about it.  I don’t really care about porn (FI and I will watch it together), and it also depends on what you mean by “wandering eye”, but that’s something that she will have to decide for herself.  Is porn a last resort (i.e. he’s aroused but she isn’t) or does he actually prefer watching porn/mastrubating?  I think that would be a huge difference for me.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Some guys just like to look at porn, its just a fact of life lol I’d much rather my guy look at porn than cheat on me. Hell, sometimes I like it, too!

    Post # 7
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    840 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    lol your poll is a bit misleading, I would answer “yes” to the question in your title and almost clicked that in the poll, but the poll question is instead ‘is it a red flag’–which I’d have to choose “no”!

    Post # 8
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I didn’t vote. I wouldn’t marry someone if he said that because I have very strong opinions about porn.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @poppygirl16:  you may also want to change your poll title, it and the topic title are confusing if not read thoroughly.

    Post # 10
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    This is completely OK, he is allowed to “look” at girls and porn, its not cheating! My husband does both and it does not bother me at all, like your SO said he is a “guy”.

    As long as he is faithful thats all that matters.

    Post # 12
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    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @poppygirl16:  I think it is honest. I don’t watch porn, nor does Fiance, but almost all of my exes do. The way I approached it is that it is only natural to be attracted to beautiful creatures– when you see a guy with an amazing body without a shirt on, do you give him a second look? Most likely yes. Would you sleep with him, heavens no.

    My view on porn and alone time is that it is his business and he should keep it as such. When he makes it your business– it gets in the way of your sex life, it takes away money that you need for something else, he leaves it in a place that you can easily find it… then it is your business. As long as he keeps it his business, what is the problem?

    I also have found most porn is like strip clubs. It is great to spur the imagination, but the reality isn’t so hot. Fiance and I accidently wandered into a strip club and it was the best thing for my self esteem. The girls were athletic and had really cute underwear, but they weren’t amazing. They were there to get your mind going about a fun experience you could have, but most guys I have met wouldn’t want to have that experience would the porn star or stripper. They prefer to have it with you.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    @patchy:  Agreed! Poll title is one question and the poll question is a different question!

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Guys don’t go blind when they marry. This guy is being honest and I see nothing wrong with it.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    but youre saying the illegal kind of porn which leads me to believe underage? is his eye wandering at little girls?

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