(Closed) Would you marry a guy you've never slept with?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you marry someone that you haven't slept with in bed?
    No, I want to know what I'm marrying. : (141 votes)
    36 %
    Yes, meaningful relationships are based on factors other than sex. : (99 votes)
    25 %
    No, sexual experience is important for fulfilling married life. : (131 votes)
    34 %
    Yes, it's more meaningful when the relationship is pure. : (20 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t because I’d want to have sex sooner than I’ve want to get married (a few weeks/months versus a few years).

    Post # 4
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i married a guy I’d NEVER slept with, or gone any farther than make out with. I consider it a fabulous decision and our post-marital sex lives are great 🙂

    Awful sex wouldn’t change my decision, though. I don’t really think it could be awful as long as it was someone I loved and was married too; sex doesn’t work like that for me.

    Post # 5
    3451 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    For me personally?  No, I wouldn’t.  Though, it does work for other couples and I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.  If it’s not good at first, well you can learn together. 

    Post # 6
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Knowing me, I probably wouldn’t.  I can never wait for something like that.

    Post # 7
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well, no. But only because I’ve slept with Fiance.

    However, had we both made the decision not to sleep together until the night of the wedding, would I still have married him? Of course. I am marrying him because I love him, not his sexual abilities (I consider that a bonus.Wink)

    However, it is nice to know what I am marrying BEFORE I marry him; If I married him without sex prior and he ended up being not-so-great at it, I would probably feel a little saddened. Sure, sex isn’t the most important thing, but it is a great factor in a relationship and if the sex isn’t as good, then it DOES strain a relationship. 

    Post # 8
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    you should add a poll!!!

    I would not wait, and i would find it odd if i guy wanted to, it wold make me worry about why he wanted to wait and wonder if something was wrong, b/c guys just arent programed that way.  and if the sex was really bad forever then it would REALLY suck, that can and will hurt a relationship

    hopefuly if its bad then it will get better, but if it never does then that sucks you have already said I DO

    Post # 9
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No, but I wasn’t a virgin when I got married so I wasn’t waiting for that special moment. As someone who has been sexually active that wasn’t a question for me. Sexual incompatability can hinder or even destroy a relationship. In My Humble Opinion it is best to know what you are getting into beforehand.

    Post # 10
    71 posts
    Worker bee

    What @Storm0075 said.
    Being sexually compatible is essential to the health of a relationship. Of course, it’s not everything, but it can so very easily derail a relationship if it’s not there.

    Post # 11
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch

    It’s really a personal choice, but for me, I definitely would not.  I like to know what I’m getting into 100%.

    Post # 13
    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Nope, nope, nope.  As bad as this sounds, i’ve slept with enough people to know that there are just some men who are NOT teachable. 

    Post # 14
    811 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Maybe if I were still a virgin, I could marry before sex, but it’s too late now, I’ve had dong and I know how important good sex is.

    Post # 15
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Sexual attraction and compatability really is necessary to maintain a healthy relationship through your active years. You are taking a risk if you haven’t tested that compatability. For some, that risk is worth it, but not for me. I think it’s pretty naive to think that you’ll enjoy the se with someone no matter what just because you love them and are committed to them. And, if you read through some of the boards on here, reality seems to show that to be the case.

    Post # 16
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    Hell, no! Smile

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