- 4 years ago
not a chance.
not a chance.
Well, it’s possible not to know you’ve been cheated on. However, if I knew there was a prior history, no..he’d be out so fast.
But like someone said, every situation is different an ld it’s hard to give a yes or no answer.
Never never never.
Nope! I wouldn’t even continue to date that person, let alone marry him.
I don’t think there’s a simple answer to this even though the obvious solution would be that the person should run…
No. Absolutely not.
I’d like to think no but honestly like a PP stated who knows what I would do if actually in the situation. it would be a major thing for me to get over but not entirely impossible. There isnt a clear cut yes or no for me as I’ve never been in the situation.
I don’t like to make blanket statements about these things or to view the world in such black and white terms. I have heard of stories where infidelity was overcome. However, I don’t *think* I could do it. I tend to get insecure sometimes even when everything is great in a relationship…I just don’t think I could ever make myself vulnerable enough to fully trust a previously unfaithful partner again.
Probably not. But if they cheated after I would prob find a way to get through that. If they cheat before you are even married though, in what should be the good times, what are they going to do in the bad times?
If someone cheats before the wedding ever takes place, that doesn’t bode well for the relationship over the long term, IMO. Marriage often involves many years, and many ups and downs as far as health, money, children and just day to day activities. If someone cheats before they even begin the long haul, I just don’t think they have what I would want in a person.
But as difficult as it would be to overcome after marriage, I cannot say with certainty that I would automatically leave after 20 years of marriage and having children together, especially if the household were otherwise peaceful and content. I’m not sure I could break the home my children depend on so heavily; that would feel as selfish on my part as cheating would have been on his. I can’t guarantee that I would NOT leave, either, but it would probably depend on the circumstances (unlike cheating before marriage for me).
For me it would depend on the circumstances.
Eg If you met young and they had a one night stand when you were at college then that’s very different to having a 6 month affair with a colleague. A slightly drunk kiss at an office event is different to actively seeking hookups online etc
I’ve seen good people make terrible mistakes so wouldn’t want to judge unless I’m in that situation. I’d like to think that I could forgive a mistake but I don’t think I could ever forgive an affair.
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