Post # 76
I actually do think the ability to cheat defines you as a person. Therefore I would not only not marry someone who cheated on me, I wouldn’t even enter into a relationship with someone who I knew cheated in their past. That said, people CAN change. I am not saying someone who cheated is incapable of not cheating in the future. I’m just saying people rarely do change.
Post # 77
- Wedding: June 2017 - Grandover Resort
No. Easy answer for me. I have so much trust & respect for my fiancé that if he was to of ever done something like that I couldn’t look at him the same.
Post # 78
Personally, I couldn’t marry someone who cheated on me. All trust would be gone and I wouldn’t want to fear that happening again. I do know people who have stayed in relationships and married the person who cheated.
Post # 79
Nope, never! If the person cheated, it would drive me nuts! I have to completely trust my other half.. If i cannot trust they can keep their privates in their pants, how can I trust they will never do it again and trust they will be there for me when I need them. How can I trust their character? So for me, it would be over..I have heard that extensive therapy could be helpful and even make the relationship stronger, but the person has to truly be remorseful and the forgiver must truly forgive and move on. For me, I hold things in and I forgive easily but I never forget! I do not think I could let that go, ever!! However, if i had children with this person..IDK..I would be so angry and hurt, I am not sure what i would do. Probably divorce the person and go heavy counseling for myself. ugh!! Hope it never happens to me or anyone else here! I am angry just thinking of the possibility. FYI-my Fiance went on his bachelor party this weekend. We talked many times prior about my concerns.