(Closed) Would you marry someone you have known less than a year?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you marry someone you have known for less than a year?
    Yes : (120 votes)
    26 %
    No : (338 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    1521 posts
    Bumble bee

    @bmo88:  nt even the living together aspect but the nt knowing each other aspect would scare me. 

     

    Post # 18
    Member
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes

     

    My Fiance proposed within 7 months of us first meeting. 

     

    But we had a lot in common, we are both older, (37/ 45), we didn’t know when we first met that our parents KNEW each other (LOL), we both grew up in the same area and we both had established homes and careers etc.

    Post # 19
    Member
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I was engaged once before, and I knew him less than a year when I said yes to his proposal. He ended up being extremely abusive in every way. So while I knew Darling Husband was “The One” in less than a year, I would never have agreed to marry him in less than a year!

    That’s just me, though!

    Post # 20
    Member
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Definitely not for me. I don’t really see what the rush would be – it’s not like I was saving myself for marriage or anything, so I’d definitely want to date a couple of years to be sure all would work out!

    Post # 22
    Member
    2250 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Absolutely not. How can you learn everything there is to know about someone in under a year? I couldn’t marry somebody that I didn’t know inside and out. I know that people like to say “when you know, you know”, but really, what the heck is the rush? Why not take your time and really get to know your partner before jumping into marriage?

     

    Post # 23
    Member
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Nope. I would be too worried I was simply in the honeymoon phase marrying someone after less than a year. I would want to wait a couple years at least just to make sure we’ve ridden out good and bad times and are still crazy about each other.

    Now, if I had been best friends with someone and started dating him, then I could see myself marrying him in less than a year; this is different of course because I would have known the person well and for a longer time before dating.

    Post # 24
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    1511 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @bmo88:  I know several couples that this has worked for.  

    For me, though, absolutely not.  My fiance and I became an official couple very shortly after we first met, and we’ve now been together for a little over 6 years.  For us, this was the perfect amount of time (especially considering we met while in a foreign country and lived over 1000 miles apart, so we did the long distance thing for quite a while until I found a job in his area).

    I don’t know if I have a definite minimum … Maybe at least 2 years?  I’m kind of in what I call the “slow relationship” group, though.  Basically it takes me a long time to really feel comfortable with someone and trust them completely.

    My biggest thing, though, is that I would never marry someone without living together first.  My fiance and I have been living together for over 2 years now, and at this point we feel really confident that marriage won’t change much (if anything) for us.  It’s kind of nice … We’re just making it more permanent.  Smile

    Post # 25
    Member
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    Hell no! In the first year, endorphins are running and everything is great because you’re probably having sex multiple times a day and you cannot think straight lol I am naturally guarded so I do not believe you can possible REALLY know someone in 12 months

    Post # 27
    Member
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No, I don’t think I would. I’m sure it works out fine for others, I wouldn’t judge someone for it, there are plenty of couples out there who have married after a few weeks and been happy for their whole lives I’m sure. It’s just not for me.

    I wouldn’t marry someone before living with them for awhile and I wouldn’t live with them before several months at least of dating and sleepovers and stuff, so I dont think that progression could happen for me in less than a year.

    If I were single and started dating someone now, the perfect time would be 1-2 years. FH and I were together for about 3.5 years before getting engaged, which was perfect for us since we started a little younger and had some long-distance time.

    Post # 28
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    1511 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @bmo88:  Haha, that just made me picture Dexter.

    He doesn’t look like this, does he?

    If not, I’d say you’re safe.  Wink

    Post # 29
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    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Fiance and I had only known each other for 6 months before he proposed. We are of the mind that if you and the other person have been vulnerable to one another and honest about who you really are, that’s all that matters. For some, it takes 3 months, others 3 years, or 13 years. It’s up to the couple to decide when they are ready. 

    Post # 31
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    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @bmo88:  Absolutely not..whether the couple will last or not isn’t even the issue..why cut the dating phase short with planning a wedding? What’s the rush? Enjoy the honeymoon phase, because when it’s over, it’s over! 🙂

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