(Closed) Would you move up your wedding timeline if someone close to you was dying?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you push a wedding if someone close to you was dying?




  • Post # 3
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @ash064:  I really wanted my Grandmother at my wedding. I only have a handful of family, and she has always been the light of my life. My wedding isn’t until March and she passed away from a very short and painful battle with an aggressive cancer. I do plan on having a chair especially for her. I really haven’t even came to terms with her death, and if I think about her not being there I start weeping. 

    You refer to your spouse as your SO. Does this mean you’re not engaged yet?  

    Post # 4
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    A friend of mine moved hers up for her grandmother as well. Family is just SO important to me. If you know you’re going to get married anyways, why not just go for it so that loved one will be there?

    Post # 5
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I haven’t dealt with this personally. However, I think that I would absolutely move my wedding up in this situation.

    Post # 6
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @nixietink:  +1

    Post # 7
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wish we had moved ours up before Fiance grandmother died. She wanted us to get married so badly almost from the minute we met. I don’t have a relationship with either of my grandmothers so I was very close to her and it’s very sad she won’t be there when we finally do get married. She died about 6 months after we got engaged, we knew her time was limited as she was 96 but we were all in denial about it, i wish we had have thought it through more and bought it forward.

    Post # 8
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I did this last year but the date ended up not working. I changed the wedding date from April 2013 to Nov. 2012 but I lost my job and we couldnt afford it. So we had to start over fresh and plan the wedding once again for April 2013. I REALLY wanted my grandmother to attend. She is the last grandparent I have left and we are VERY close. DH’s grandmother had passed April 2012. That’s what had me thinking about this. But I’m glad she was able to be there:

    Post # 9
    5063 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yes, most definately. It’s my biggest fear that my parents won’t be there. So FH and I have a plan B if needed. Registry Office and Restaurant next year if my mum is poorly again. She’s lives in a constant tension of well and gravely ill in hours. Stupid horrible COPD! 

    Post # 10
    29 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My Mother-In-Law is dying and we’ve moved our wedding from March 2014 to Sep of this year. But in the meantime we just, very unexpectadly, lost my nana. If she really means so much to you then I say move it. I’ve also found you start to value what’s really important in a wedding (the ones you love and your marriage) rather than getting too hung up on the details ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    5540 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    In a heartbeat. Coolest thing ever was a family on my floor had the dad in hospice and the dil to be said “screw all the plans and lets get married” so they had their ceremony in his hospital room. The dad died like four days later after less than six weeks battle with cancer. The family showed us pictures, it was precious.

    Post # 12
    2120 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

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    @chasesgirl:  Your story made me tear up. That’s really sweet ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
    4654 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I wouldn’t be able to do that. I can only get time off work during very specific parts of the year… so I wouldn’t be able to even if I wanted to.

    Post # 14
    9830 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I would love to but we wouldn’t be able to as financially we can’t afford to live together yet and with my health at the moment the stress would be too much.

    Post # 15
    2273 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We considered it but ultimately I’m glad we didnt – mainly because the date we had chosen to move it to (the first date we could legally get married one month one day after putting in the paperwork) was the day after my dad died ๐Ÿ™ so yeah it would’ve been too late and sad to do it then. I spoke to dad about it – he had terminal cancer and went downhill fast and honestly even if we’d done it the day we got engaged he was already too sick. Our wedding 8 months after dad died was still beautiful and we tried to honour him the best we could. 

    By The Way I did manage to involve my dad with as much planning as possible – like he knew what my dress looked like (he came out shopping with me on a lucid day) and our rings etc. He wanted this as hard as it was for all of us to do knowing he wouldn’t be there short of a miracle ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 16
    32 posts

    Yes. I have. My fiancé and I were getting married on the 8th September this year (2013) but my Mum, who means the world to me,was diagnosed with secondary cancer this year. We found out that it is classed as terminal, but that there is no way of knowing how long she has – it may be years away (I hope every day that this will be the case) But no one knows. She could come down very sick again in any case, so while she is fairly healthy and doing well, we pulled our wedding forward to this weekend (21st July). We cancelled our original wedding and pulled it together in 12 weeks. It can be done! For me, it was essential. My Dad passed 10 years ago, to think that my Mum may not be at my wedding too was unbearable. At least now, I’ll have her by my side throughout one of the most significant days of my life. 

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