Post # 1
Fiance and myself do not drink. Not that we mind others drinking (We are by no means prudes, we are fairly laid back.).
We don’t like the taste, Fiance is mildly allergic, we grew up with alcoholics in our immediate families, we think it’s a waste of money and there are still alcoholics in both of our families that would be present at the wedding.
Would it really bother you not to have alcohol if you came to our wedding, knowing what you’ve read above?
(There would be tons of drink and food options. As well as a taco bar, nacho bar, tons of sweets/treats, munchies, etc.)
Post # 3
If there are alcoholics in your family, then you definitely made the right choice. You do not want anyone to ruin your day… not worth the risk. Who cares what other people think?
I personally would rather have alcohol at a wedding that I attended, but if I loved the two people getting married then I would be happy just to be there celebrating with them!
Post # 4
It wouldn’t bother me at all, especially if I knew about your families. I think not having alcohol is probably for the best in your situation.
I just have to say, with or without alcohol, your wedding sounds like it will be a blast with the taco and nacho bars!
Post # 5
I would definitely go! I don’t believe that you need alcohol to have a great time at a wedding, and I am sure that your guests will feel the same way.
Post # 6
we dont drink alcohol either so i vote i wouldnt mind and your food stations sound super yummy btw
Post # 7
Not drinking is a personal and healthy choice I respect very much. ! DH does not drink and it is a wonderful thing. I can have fun without any drug or alcohol. Just be aware some people might still “sneak” some in- depending on your crowd.
Post # 8
MMmm your food sounds so good!
Post # 9
@ktk:It is not a big deal. I much rather eat my calories:0)
Post # 10
@cbee:That is my only concern. We are hoping to buy a house before the wedding and have it there. So I’m not TOO worried about the possiblity of a few flasks around.
Post # 11
I would never not attend someone’s wedding (or any other function for that matter) if they werent serving alcohol. Would I be a little bummed? Yes. But I would get over it in about .02 seconds and proceed to have a great time! If someone is only coming to your wedding based on whether or not you have alcohol then it doesnt matter if they show up at all…
Post # 12
It wouldn’t bother me at all! I tend to think that someone who stays away from a wedding just because it’s dry probably has a bit of a drinking problem. Your wedding will be tons of fun and you won’t have to deal with any booze-related drama, which is a plus! I’m already worrying about my alcholic BFF going on a rampage at mine (I fully intend to call the cops in him if he gets out of control, haha)
Post # 13
people forget that while yes, you should be attentive of hospitality, this is your shindig. have a vegan buffet, play polka music, wear clown shoes–it’s a day to celebrate YOU and if you’re not drinkers, so be it. if you don’t want alcohol, then people can either show up and shut up or stay home.
(and really, if you can’t have a good time without a drink, you have problems).
Post # 14
I personally much prefer to have alcohol at weddings but if the couple chooses to not offer it then that’s their decision. It won’t stop me from attending but I probably wouldn’t have as good of a time than if I had a few cocktails in me.
Post # 16
@jo.lee:Ha, thanks! Fiance really wants to somehow create a nacho cheese fountain (ya know, instead of a chocolate fountain). I know it’s terribly tacky; but if that’s what he wants I don’t mind it. And I can blame it all on him if everyone hates it, HA!
I’m a pastry chef/baker/cake decorator/what-have-you so I’ll be making the wedding cake and all the desserts. If we end up having the wedding at our house; I’m going to ask my Aunts, sisters, Future Mother-In-Law and Mom to help me cook everything and just have a big taco/nacho bar with potluck option for anyone that wishes to bring something along.
We are going to be getting a keg of good rootbeer; instead of regular beer. A bit of a twist; but kind of fun.