(Closed) Would you not attend a wedding without alcohol?

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: Would the lack of alcohol make you question your attendance at the wedding?

    No biggie, I don't mind it.

    I would mind it a bit; but I understand where you are coming from and I'd still attend.

    Yes it would bother me quite a bit, I'd have to think about whether or not to attend.

    I would never go to a wedding that doesn't have some alcohol provided.

  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I have been to plenty of weddings that had no alcohol, (mine didn’t either), and had plenty of fun!!!  

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    oh my gosh,  i wouldn’t mind it at all! my Fiance and i hardly drink ever. in fact, we quit for a good 2 years, and have just recently started drinking every once in a while (which usually isn’t good news). we had a big debate with families/guests about whether or not have alcohol at our reception. why spend the money on it when we aren’t even going to enjoy it ourselves?

    we decided just to do light beers and 3 kinds of wine.

    i totally would have a blast your wedding with NO BOOZE if i were a guest!

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @Meealissa: this! very well put.

     

    we decided not to allow shots (still having a bar – cash bar – gasp! Tongue out). I was concerned people would be upset (mainly the future inlaws) but my mom reassured me that if people cannot come to a wedding and celebrate without liquor, they’ve got a bit of a problem.

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t even think of not attending! A wedding is about being present for an important day in the lives of the bride and groom, not getting drunk.

    I attended a beer-and-wine-only wedding a few months ago (which is equal to a wedding without alcohol for me, because I don’t drink beer or wine), and it was the best wedding I’ve ever been to.

    Post # 51
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    Bumble bee

    If the sole reason someone doesn’t come to your wedding is the lack of alcohol that’s just sad. Probably shouldn’t invite guests who care more about what you’re serving than supporting you in your marriage.

    We’re not having alcohol and none of my guests will have an issue with it.

    Post # 52
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    Worker bee

    Im muslim but not super religious but out of respect for my parents and older family friends we wont have alcohol.We had a lot of weddings with drunk people and its annoying this way it will be stress free maybe you should just have drinks for toast.Dont worry just make sure you have good food because if people are not full  they will complain.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ll have mormons, muslims and AAers (my mom included at my wedding) and although it won’t be a dry wedding, I am buying the alcohol personally so beer and wine only and I am having a TON of non-alcoholic options including sparkling juices for the toast, sparkling water, homemade ice tea, and pop. 

     

    I have been to a couple of dry weddings and have always had a good time.

    Post # 54
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I rarely drink in general, so it wouldn’t bother me at all.  I hate that some people think they need booze to have a good time.

    You might lose a few people earlier if they’re not feeling loose enough to hit the dance floor, but lots of people will stick around too.

    That said, I HAD alcohol available for free and I still ended up with a tailgate party in the parking lot, so who knows.

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @sorrycharlie: No shots is a great idea.  My venue won’t even serve shots – they must have had some problems in the past!  I’m only having beer and wine, no hard liquor.  My friends and hard liquor don’t mix LOL

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yeah, people might be bummed for like 5 minutes but whatever.. you’re having a nacho bar!! After being bummed for 5 minutes, I would be psyched for the rest of the night!

    Post # 57
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @ktk: I wouldnt  be bothered if you had no alcohol. I think you shouldnt if you have alcoholics in your family coming to your wedding. They may get drunk and ruin your day.

    Post # 58
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes I would, but I would not be all that impressed by NO alcohol, not even the option to buy some on my own would honestly really totally suck. I’ll also freely admit I would most likely leave quite early. Yeah, I’d stay for all the speeches and whatever, but once the “party” starts, I’d probably be gone. Sorry, but it’s my truth.

    Post # 59
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Frankly, I’d be extremely pleased. I do not drink and people drinking around me tends to bring me back, emotionally, to an incident when I was younger that emotionally scarred me.

    We are having a dry wedding- FH stopped drinking a few months after we started dating. I was afraid at first that some on my mom’s side wouldn’t come as they threw a fit 25 years ago when my parents had a dry wedding but they’ve matured since then and some are even flying down. We’re just offering several “alternatives” to give people options: lemonade, ice tea, water, and Dublin Dr. Pepper (Dr. Pepper with cane sugar). Of course the option to mix Arnold Palmers is an option since FH loves them with tons of sugar.

     

    I’ve heard multiple times is thatm long and short of it is that, these people are here to celebrate your marriage and hopefully they know you well enough to know your motivations and not judge you for them.

    Post # 60
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Drinking really isn’t a part of my “culture”, which is kind of a weird thing to say since I’m just boring white and live in California, but I’m not close friends with anyone who does any more than occasionally have a glass of wine.

    Nobody in my family ever drinks at family functions. It’s just not something we do. My parents have probably tasted alcohol a grand total of 5 or  6 times in their lives. So the idea of having alcohol at my wedding would seem very strange and foreign. I’d have no idea where to even start, lol.

    There might be a handful of people at our reception who would drink it if it was offered, but I doubt it will even be noticed that it’s not there. Weird but true, we’re just big fat teetotallers 😀

    Post # 61
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, I don’t get the big deal over alcohol… If someone was coming to your house for dinner & you didn’t provide alcohol would they make a stink about it? Probably not. You’re hosting a dinner party & it’s not required to have alcohol. I think, with alcoholism being present in your family backgrounds, it’s totally understandable why you wouldn’t want alcohol.

    I would absolutely go to a dry wedding because I’m not going for the reception. I’m going to support the couple & share in their special day! 🙂

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