(Closed) Would you offer him work?

posted 7 years ago in Home
  • poll: Would you offer him work?
    Yes : (7 votes)
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    No : (16 votes)
    67 %
    Other : (1 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Have you ever heard the term “no good dead goes unpunished?” I think it doubles when you talk about hiring a friend to do work around the house. There are so many things that can go wrong, even in the best of situations.

    If you do hire him, make sure you sign a contract with the scope of work, estimated hours and timelines, and budget clearly identified. It can still turn sour (even with a contract, he could not live up to your expectations on many levels and it could lead to hard feelings).

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m coming from the other side of the situation right now. I’m in grad school, my Fiance is unemployed but trying SO hard to find a job.  If a friend offered him work, we would both be so grateful.  I agree with CanAmBride: that there should be a clear contract, of course.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’d actually be most worried about insulting my friend by offering. I’ve been in somewhat similar situations (not hiring someone to work at our house, but just offering to lend money) and it doesn’t generally turn out well. If you were going to do it, I’d make it very business like. Maybe just ask your friend if her husband is doing free-lance work on the side right now, and if so if he might be interested in giving you a quote for painting your house. That way it doesn’t sound so much like “here I am helping you” but hey… I have a need and perhaps we can work something out.

    Post # 6
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @CorgiTales:

    I think there’s a HUGE difference between offering work and lending money (although both are extremely generous). I would never ever borrow money from a friend, but I would certainly accept a clearly-defined job and do it to the best of my abilities.

    But I agree with you that asking for a quote is the most diplomatic and thoughtful way of inquiring about it.

    Post # 8
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @Vitsippa: ahh… yea i probably wouldn’t do it then if your husband is happy to do the work himself. 

    Post # 9
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Vitsippa: Oh wow, ok.  In that case, it’s probably not worth it. But it was very kind of you to even consider it!

    Post # 10
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We did hire a friend and it’s been far from awesome…

    Our friends were expecting their first child last year and they were pretty stressed over money. The wife doesn’t work and the husband has a full time job but the amount he was making was barely cutting it. Fiance co-owns a software company so he offered our friend a job handling the support issues. Things were going well, then their baby was born and he started slacking off. We knew they would need a few weeks to acclimate so we were fine with him falling a little behind but months had passed and he hadn’t done a thing. Issues weren’t getting taken care of and FI’s business partner was not happy. Fiance ended up talking to our friend and explaining the situation. He even told him that if his performance didn’t change, we would have to find someone to replace him. We don’t pay him a lot of money by any means (it’s only like $400-$500 for 20ish hours p/month) but that money is basically what is allowing his family to pay their bills.

    Over the last few months we’ve been having some more issues and now FI’s business partner isn’t happy again. There is a chance that we may have to fire him and that is seriously stressing Fiance out. The couple we’re talking about are our best friends (both are in our wedding party). Fiance wishes that he could go back and not hire him just because of the stress it’s put on our (meaning ours and theirs) relationship. It’s also kind of weird being your friends boss. You don’t want to boss them around because you’re friends but you still need to run a business. Personally, it’s a situation I wish we could have avoided. Because of this, I don’t think we will hire friends again. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    After your second post, I would say no. Unfortunately, we’ve hired a friend to do some work for us in our condo, and he did a really poor job. We didn’t think to sign a contract or anything b/c he’s a friend…why would he try to screw us over? And it’s not that he screwed us over, but the quality of work just wasn’t there. So I would advise against it. I know you want to help, but I just think it’s a bad idea.

    Post # 13
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Instead of offering him work persay why not just mention you are looking for someone to paint your house? Let her bring up her husband.

    Post # 14
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It’s a nice thought, but a bad idea ultimately and it sounds like you’ve talked yourself out of it already. Honestly if I were you, I would ask myself why I know so much about this girls financial situation in the first place. That’s a lot of detail for a school acquaintence. I don’t even discuss money that much in depth with my closest friends. It would make me uncomfortable if someone I was only sort of close to constantly complained about how poor she was, I would feel like she was asking for some kind of a handout.

    You can offer to help in other ways, like if she needs a ride to class if she can’t afford her car anymore. You can be there for her as a friend without employing her husband or handing them cash.

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