Post # 31
Just giving my opinion on the situation, as I was planning on getting moissanite but my Fiance bought a diamond.
I wouldn’t go around announcing that my ring wasn’t a diamond, and if someone complimented it I wouldn’t be like “It’s an asha/moissanite/white sapphire/whatever!” I’d just take the compliment and move on. BUT if someone asked specifically (like friends and family can be brash enough to do) I wouldn’t lie. Because if they find out then you look like a liar, and also it’s just a dumb thing to lie about.
I think that’s the issue most people had in the last thread. There is a huge difference between withholding the facts and outwardly lying.
Post # 32
It does not bother me if others lie about their rings. Who cares? It doesn’t affect the value of my ring if someone with a 2+ carat CZ or moissanite passes theirs off as a diamond.
Post # 33
If I’m asked, I proudly say my ring is a moissanite. However I’m rarely asked and I feel it’s tacky to bring up the subject and go into great detail about it unless you know for sure someone is actually interested.
Post # 34
I would personally chase down every person who might have glanced at my ring. “EXCUSE ME SIR, I noticed you we’re possibly looking at my ring and I wanted to inform you that it isn’t diamond. I chose a moissanite for many reasons, and if you have a moment, I’ve prepared a Power Point presentation to explain it.”
Because I have morals.
Post # 35
Just… why the hell would you lie?
I mean, people sometimes say to me “I would never have guessed that you were 30, you look much younger!”. I always correct them and say “well, nothing about my appearance is real… my hair is white, but I dye it brown, and I get botox… this isn’t even my “real” face!”. I think that’s in the interest of honesty… it’s holding women to an unreasonable standard of beauty if they are expected to look 25 when they are 30, or 30 when they are 40.
If women say “ooh, I like your handbag!”, I say “thanks… it’s a replica, but it is real calves’ leather. I bought it because it was so soft, but it was super cheap… ebay’s finest!”. I have no desire to pretend that I shop at some fancy place.
I just genuinely don’t understand the desire to be something you are not. If you pretend to be something you are not, it can only be because you are ashamed of what you ARE. If you are ashamed of what you are, you have big problems….
Post # 36
When I saw that somone replied to me I figured I pissed someone off haha. Thank you 🙂
Post # 37
I don’t think anyone would actually have the nerve to ask me, but if they did I would be honest if I were to have a simulant. I’ve looked into moissy and I think it’s beautiful. I plan on getting someday the Veraggio setting I want but a moissy as the center to save some money. I doubt I’d ever have to say it’s not a diamond though, since it’s considered pretty tacky in my social group to ask such a question.
Post # 38
I would absolutely try to pass a moissy off as a diamond because A) who really outside of weddingbee knows what a moissanite is? Do you really want to spend 15 mins explaining to every person what it is when they’re just gonna turn around and assume it’s the same as a cz and that those are ‘fake’ diamonds. And B) people are judgmental assholes that think only diamonds are ‘real’ engagement rings, why give them something else to judge you about.
I don’t see anything wrong with fibbing about the stone to avoid judgment or awkward conversation. Unless of course your shoving your 3ct moissy in everyone’s face acting like it’s a $60k diamond. Lol
Post # 40
- Wedding: May 2015 - Aloft Hotel
I 100% agree with you. I think the only people who get in a huff over these things are those who feel the need to establish that they are somehow better than someone else for having paid more money for the “real thing”.
It’s a pretty rock that sits on my finger, and if the human eye can’t tell the difference, really, what difference does it make? The only person the authenticity of the stone should matter to is the person wearing it.
Post # 41
- Wedding: May 2015 - Aloft Hotel
That’s why I don’t get into what my gem is…pure unadulterated laziness. xD
Post # 42
in my opinion, passing something off as something that it is not, speaks volumes about one’s character and integrity. be proud and own it for what it is.
Post # 43
I honestly could care less if someone tells people their sim is a diamond..it doesn’t make my diamond any less real..so if they feel like they would be judged for not having a real diamond then do what you gotta do!
Post # 44
Its annoying when a girl shoves her ring in people’s face constantly, diamond or not. So its just slightly more annoying when they scream ‘D color! flawless! 75 carat!’ And you find out it’s not. Some people can tell the difference, most don’t. Even people who can, most will never say anything about it.
Unspoken social rules dictate that newly engaged women will get a flurry of short, sweet and light compliments from every women they present their left hand to, despite the fact that almost everyone really doesn’t give a fuck what your ring looks like.
Isn’t that why we post ring threads in the first place? Lol.
Most rings are cute or pretty in some aspect regardless of stone typw. I’ve only seen 3 in person that I was truly wowed by. A few more than that on the web. (I’m looking at you, show me the bling forum pricescope)
Post # 45
I proudly tell everyone my stone is a white sapphire. I don’t like diamonds as my personal preference, and I wouldn’t want our friends to think we had possibly gone for an unethical or ridiculously expensive stone. I think all kinds of stones are nice, people should be proud of what they have.