(Closed) would you pass your non diamond as a diamond?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you ever try to 'pass' your stone as a diamond?

    Yes, I would totally tell people my stone is a diamond and not give it a second thought.

    No, I would never ever 'pass' my non diamond as a diamond.

  • Post # 91
    1219 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t care what anyone tells anyone else about their ring.  But, I also don’t like it when some ppl act like I eat babies for breakfast because I have a diamond.  The judgement definitley goes both ways around here.

    Post # 92
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Nope. I have an amora, and I love it. I wanted it because I prefere it to diamond in every way.  With one of my jobs, I currently work in customer service, and I deal with people daily. Everyone assumes it’s a diamond, mainly because that’s what the advertising world has made us believe.  I politely smile and say thank-you, but I don’t correct them because I just don’t see a point. If someone wants details, I’ll let them know my ring is both amora and diamond though.<br /><br />I don’t know, in the end it’s a piece of jewelry that really only matters for the meaning behind it.

    Post # 93
    4296 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    In the five months that I have had my ring I have only had one person ask me what the stone was and it was my judgemental bridal consultant where I bought my dress. If someone compliments my ring (and I’ll tell you, it doesn’t happen that often), I give a gracious thank you and leave it there. Bombarding strangers with all of this information on moissanites and why I chose it over a diamond, etc. is only going to ensure that this person NEVER speaks to me again because while she was trying to be polite and nice, I have now assaulted her with unwanted information. My friends and family know what my stone is. I have never been deceitful about it. And if someone were to say, “What a gorgeous diamond” I would most likely say, “Thank you, but it’s a moissanite” and leave it there. More than likely though, someone is saying to me, “What a gorgeous ring” and honestly there is nothing more to say to that statement than “Thank you.” 

    Post # 94
    2342 posts
    Buzzing bee

    To answer the first question: no, if I had a non-diamond ring, I wouldn’t lie about it, because I don’t care what other people think. Also, because I believe that diamonds are wildly inflated in cost (I sold fine jewelry for years and know all about the history), and I don’t think there’s any real status in them anymore. At least where I live I see so many huge rocks on “average” working people (i.e. people I know aren’t wealthy) that they have basically lost their wow factor to me. So whether they are diamonds or not is basically irrelevant.   

    Look, the whole status of “real diamonds” is that they are more expensive than these other white colored stone diamond alternatives. I don’t think it matters which one you have, because however you slice it, jewelry in and of itself is a status item.

    Personally, I think jewelry can be misleading about your financial situation regardless of whether it is a diamond, moissy, or white sapphire. For example, I used to work with a woman who wore at least a 4 carat engagment ring along with a large eternity band. I happened to know she made around 40k a year, and her husband about the same. (Bear in mind, I live in NYC , so for our cost of living this is not a large income). Basically, as far as I could tell, it was either synthetic and she was passing it off, or it was real and they went into debt to buy it (she said she picked it, so I know it was not an heirloom). Either way that’s misleading, right? Because she’s presenting herself as someone of huge wealth when she’s middle/lower-middle class?

    So then the question becomes, how nitpicky do we need to be in terms of self-presentation versus actual situation. See what a crazy slippery slope this could become? 

    What about the national average cost of a wedding? Did you know it’s 27k? Compare that with the national average income, and it’s not hard to see that most people in this country are living far above their means. To me, that’s the real issue. In terms of sheer logic, I would respect someone of average to lower income MORE for purchasing a less expensive stone, and if someone could afford either I would assume it was just personal preference. I think lying about it outright (as in, “Look at my diamond ring”) only adds to this BS mystique of every woman craving a diamond.

    In reality I can tell you that most people cannot tell the difference. I worked in fine jewelry for YEARS (in major US cities), and I can’t tell you the number of times women would want to try on “diamond” rings, and then they would point to a white sapphire or even an aquamarine (thinking it was a “blue” diamond). 

    Post # 95
    973 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    chica95110:  Fiance got me a blue topaz and diamond ring. I love it so much but was a bit surprised my mom took to telling everyone it is a blue diamond! i did som research and blue diamonds, the real kind are stinkin’ expensive! I’ve had several other friends and family members comment on how unique the blue diamond is. Everytime I quickly correct them and say thank you the blue is actual topaz! 

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