(Closed) Would you pay for your own or put money towards your own engagment ring?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you pay for your own or put money towards your own engagment ring?
    Yes : (146 votes)
    65 %
    NO, NEVER! : (70 votes)
    31 %
    Other : (10 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    14486 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If I’m marrying the guy, its all one big pot of money anyways.  If I need to put “my” money in to get a ring *I* want, sure… why not?

    Post # 4
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Definitely…as PP said…it’s all the same in the end.

    Post # 5
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee

    Once you are married the money is usually “whats mine is yours and whats your is mine” so I don’t see a problem with it.  

    Post # 6
    Member
    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Darling Husband and I have had joint checking accounts for a long time, so I guess technically I did 🙂 It obviously doesn’t bother me.

    Post # 7
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Agreed, it’s no big deal. He bought my engagement ring, but I bought both of our wedding rings.

    Post # 8
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Darling Husband and I had lived together with joint fiances for roughly 5 years when we were engaged. All money was “our” money. We saved for my ering and when we had enough, we bought it. Not the most traditional way to go about it but we’re not traditional people.

    Theres nothing wrong with contributing. I kinda feel like more women should. Why should our SO’s have to scrimp and save and/or go into debt to buy us something pretty? If you’re capable of helping and he’s cool with it, then I say go for it!

    Post # 9
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    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We combined some finances when we moved in, and I have more savings than FH.  I offered to contribute but he wouldn’t have it!

    But we’re both paying for the wedding bands.

    Post # 10
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    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We put mine on layaway for a couple of months and he made some payments on it, but every time I saw it and put it on I couldn’t take it anymore, I had to have it. So I ended up giving him some of the money towards it so we could pick it up. I would have rather paid that little part of it myself and have it sooner, than wait for it. He insisted on giving me the money back though.

    Post # 11
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    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    We’re going to combine finances anyways and already have a joint account for groceries because we live together. I wouldn’t mind putting in some money. I’ve actually offered but my boyfriend wants to pay for it on his own.

    Post # 12
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    11391 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Its our money either way. We got my e-ring & band after we got married due to getting silver temp rings for our wedding. 

    I wouldn’t ask for a ring more than he could afford though. Its a gift from him to me. So he paid for it with money from his paycheck. Like I said though, either way its our money! 🙂

     

    Post # 13
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    3522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I paid for most of it. Darling Husband helped. Both of us were totally fine with it. 

    Post # 14
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    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    To him, it was important that it be paid for by him because it was his gift to me. I could tell it would hurt his feelings if I asked to help pay for it. However I made it clear I preferred a very modest ring – if I had wanted a real investment piece things might have been different. For us it was a matter of it being a sentimental gesture.

    Post # 15
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Technically, I did put some of my money towards it already since my Darling Husband and I have had a joint checking account for awhile, but he did start making the payments on it when he got it.

    Post # 16
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    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I say ‘why not’ …it’s going to be your money anyways.

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