(Closed) Would you pay for your own or put money towards your own engagment ring?

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you pay for your own or put money towards your own engagment ring?
    Yes : (146 votes)
    65 %
    NO, NEVER! : (70 votes)
    31 %
    Other : (10 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 47
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would but Fiance would (and did) object to the suggestion that we split it, he conceded it made sense with the distance to use my card and he put the money for the ring on it, he was only ok with using my card because he’s still the one paying for the ring.

    Post # 48
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Honestly? I was fine with whatever ring he got me. So no, I would not buy my own ring.

    Post # 49
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    423 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I said other…We consider all the money between us OUR money and it has been that since we went backpacking Asia when we first started dating. So technically, yes some of my money went towards the ring, but if finances were separate, I wouldn’t put money towards a ring. I still feel that it is up to the man to pay for a ring he can afford PLUS I would wanted a surprise proposal. Paying for the ring kind of takes that away.

    Post # 50
    Member
    367 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m not engaged yet, but planning on buying my own ring. I don’t think I’d like anything he picked out, and he hates jewelry anyway.

    Post # 51
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    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    No because Fiance wouldn’t allow it. He’s old fashioned and thinks it is totally on him to do it. He knew the ring I wanted and made it happen. 🙂

    Post # 52
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    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t see anything wrong with it… it’s a purchase that is going toward our future together, so I think it’s fine to make together. I offered to split the cost with him and he said “We’ll see” (which, I have learned by now, means no). He has a sensitive ego and I suspect that he would feel less manly if I paid for part of it.

    Post # 53
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    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t mind — if you’re going to get married your money will be shared anyways.  No big deal 🙂

    Post # 54
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    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

     if my contribution ensures that I get a ring that I’m happy with, then absolutely yes. Besides the money will all be combined at some point, so I don’t think it matters. I’ve already mentioned thatoption to my SO, but idk if he’d everactually take me up on it

    Post # 55
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    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I dont see why not.  I picked out my ring.  Fi is not really a jewelry person and that stuff doesn’t matter to him (he cares more about the marriage).  So I got the ring (paid for with OUR money) and he has it hidden somewhere waiting to ‘propose’.  Not sure when he will give it to me, so there is the surprise right there.  At least I know it’s a ring I’ll love.

    Post # 56
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m buying my own ring and it works for us, end of story…

    I get the ring I’ve always coveted. My feeling is I’m not going to spend more on a dress I’ll wear once than on the ring I’ll wear forever, thus, I’m buying the expensive dream ring.

    We’re halfway there, I just paid for the diamond. Now I just have to get the setting…

    Post # 57
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    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Fiance would never have let me. But my mom actually ended up buying my engagement ring as a gift to us (we were both wanting to start our lives together, and I’m in school and don’t work, and Fiance is dealing with a long term back problem).

    But I tried to contribute to my engagement ring before. I ended up with some money, and I wanted to give it to Fiance so he could buy my ring but he would have nothing to do with it.

    Post # 58
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    233 posts
    Helper bee

    Absolutely not.  I am a traditional Southern woman.  There is no way I would ever pay for my own ring.  Then again, even with joint finances, I would never pick up the check at dinner.  I was raised to let the man be the man, and I want him Fiance to be the “provider.”  It’s old fashioned and not progressive, but, it’s culture.

    Post # 59
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    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No way and my Fiance would never let me anyways even if I tried.

    Post # 60
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    28 posts
    Newbee

    I didn’t put money towards my engagement ring (I didn’t even see the proposal coming!) but a few weeks later, I took him shopping for a really nice watch of similar value to my ring. He chose one worth a bit less, but it was the one he liked. 

    Post # 61
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    13660 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would offer, but Fiance would never let me.  We’re both very traditional, and this is supposed to be his offer of a lifetime for me, not something we pay for together.  I also would never have wanted to go shopping for my own ring either, though. 

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